I'm The Mommy I'll Blog If I Want To

To say good bye or not ?....THAT is the decision

2011-10-03T08:31:00.000-07:00

There is no doubt in my mind that I truly enjoy blogging. It is something I dabbled with in the early 2000's when my children where babies and then picked it up semi-full time when I wanted to share my adventures in homeschooling.That blog led to THIS blog, My creative outlet. My spot to share whatever I wanted to whenever I wanted to regarding the circus that goes on in my head and without fail in my life.

Until recently though, it has been much more harder than in times past for me to post here. These past 4 months have been a challenge to say the least. I can put my finger directly on a few of the thunder-stealing culprits. I'll briefly share them with you :

School : the last few months have been stressful. The closer I got to being done, the more anxiety I felt and the more interruptions threatening my end I had. But fortunately, I did finish *insert HUGE smile here* 9/20/11 (one month later than scheduled )
Family Crisis : Over the summer I was hit with some pretty hot news (and it wasn't the weather report ) that left the members of my household as well as extended family burned. It has been a joy stealer at times, but we keep on going with as much grace, happiness and prayer that we can bring. Life has cycles and we know that this too shall pass.
Loss of a loved one : Every one hates to get that call at 3am, at work, or on the way home. The one that sends chills up and down your spine and makes you want to rip off your own skin because what your heart feels when someone you love has died, is a far worse pain. I lost my 23 year old brother in a murder. I decided that since I am the oldest child, losing a sibling was the closest thing I could imagine losing a child to be.....'nuff said, right?

So with this glimpse into my 3 ring circus I currently call life, I'm sure you can forgive me for not giving you regular posts, right ? Of course, because you are sooo understanding. So anyway, I have been wanting to put stuff up but I'm finding myself evolving in some kind of way, funny how that happens every time I think I got ME all figured out. This beloved site with all it's randomness is not really fueling me at the moment, and if I have to "push" myself to find content then it takes away from the whole point of this blog for me. And the kind of person I am, I need to have a point for what I'm doing (most of the time). So I guess what I'm trying to say is that I wont be posting on here anymore. *tear*After I finish printing all the posts that I want to remember, I will be shutting it down. I know, this is gonna be hard for you too :) but it's gonna be okay! I plan to resume my blogging on my wellness site (still under construction). Perhaps I will guest blog on other sites as I have before. I'm not totally leaving my bloggy roots, just shifting my direction some. Putting my focus more on my passions. I'll be saving most of my randomness for my facebook, twitter, and google+ pages. Perhaps one day I will reinvent myself and comeback with another blog name & site. Thanks to those of you that read my posts regularly here and commented, I appreciated it greatly.

But no matter what, I am STILL "The Mommy, and I'll Blog If I Want To ! "

Peace

Working in the yard teaches lessons about relatinships

2011-08-05T07:09:00.001-07:00

I don't know how many of my readers know this about me, but I really enjoy working in my yard. If you did not know this, then I was amiss somewhere in my blogging here on this site. Well, I guess it just makes for some new material huh?

Anyway, The other day I was working in my backyard and as I was digging a hole big enough to fit my new butterfly bush, *insert BIG smile* I was having a hard time. The ground was hard and I had to soften it with water, the sun was beaming hot and I had to really work to get the rocks out so that the soil was more suitable. As I was doing this work I thought about how my hard work will pay off. How proud I will be when I see my bush blooming and attracting beautiful butterfly's.

As I scooped in the hand fulls of dirt, I started thinking. Because that's what I do when I work in my yard. There's something about running my fingers through the soil that makes me reflective and peaceful. My thoughts about my hard work led me to thinking about my relationships. They too are hard work sometimes. They require cultivating. Digging, softening, and proper nurturing even during tough conditions. Sometimes they are not easy and just like with working in the yard, it can sometimes be trial and error. Requiring some education either through previous experience, books or assistance from a friend. Whether it is a new or old plant, new or old reationship, you don't have a guarantee of the success of it's growth. However, because you want to see the fruits of your labor you work hard at it. It requires patience along the way because some plants (relationships) take longer than others to produce a bud. It is a fact though, that if you do nothing then you get nothing, only a dried up, lifeless stub of what could have been, not a pretty sight. As a gardener or as a person in any relationship, when you do your best according to YOUR best and with good intent there is satisfaction to be found.

So appropriate and in line with my thoughts, is the topic for conversation on Love On The Radio. A Blogtalk radio show hosted by my friend Swarthy Daisy and my business partner with Be.Beautifully.Well , LadyLovelyPeace. Each week during the month of August they will be discussing Love and Relationships with the author of the book: Loves Gumbo, by Brooke Brimm.
If you are like me and you welcome open dialogue, awareness and tips to keep your relationships in bloom, Join in and listen. They discuss critical points in relationships with :

Self
Mate
Friends
Family

There will be an e-book give away for Love's Gumbo each week to one of the participants of the Twitter party as well. That is aaawwwwesome ! This week the twitter party was all kinds of juiciness as well as the show. Honey, don't miss it next week, Follow us on twitter and be ready for next week's party. Find any of us : @hicksgirls93 @LadyLovelyPeace @SwarthyDaisy @1LoveOnTheRadio @BeautifullyWell #LuvChat

...BTW How you like my gardeners outfit? Cute, Right? ;)

It's about that time to do it again

2011-07-25T05:47:00.000-07:00

Like most parents I am about to start prepping for the first day of school. It's that time of year when there is excitement, anxiety and annoyance all rolled in one. OMG! I hate having to deal with the long lines at the local Walmart and the department stores looking for the best bargains on pencils, paper and the coolest must have tween clothing accessories. Don't get me wrong I love the bargains, I just hate feeling like I'm in competition with a million other parents to get them.

Then there is the anxiety of wondering who the new teacher is going to be. What type of kids will be in class with my kids every day? It's back to packing lunches and handing out lunch money. Or in my case, having to apologize to my kids because I forgot to give them the a'fore mentioned items which results in an embarrassing situation with the cafeteria lady giving my kid a PB &J wrapped in wax paper and a cup for water until they come back with cash. Those lunch ladies are merciless I tell ya!And of course filling out all those doggone papers the first two weeks. I just about feel like I'm buying my house all over again with all the paper signing that I have to do.

Then, there is the happy side that I enjoy so much. That look of excitement that is on their faces when they are looking on the list to see where they have been assigned, hoping that their classroom buddies from last year will be with them this year. It's that sense of pride I get when I hear each child tell me how much harder they will work this school term than they did the year before. Without a doubt, they always looks so cute rockin' the new outfits on the first day. It's such a confidence booster.

And of course they always make my heart melt when they wave goodbye and blow me kisses as they ride away on the school bus. I quickly get over it however, as I sit at my kitchen table sipping my coffee flavored with caramel macchiato creamer and a dash of cinnamon and nutmeg. Enjoying the sweet sound of quiet.....hmmmmm, oh yeah it's back school time bayyyybeeee! Can't you hear the bells ringing?

See, what had happened was...

2011-07-12T14:47:00.000-07:00

Yeah, the title of this blog post is kinda how I feel I need to start talking to you guys. I mean looking back I realize I have been away from this blog for about 2 months (gasp!). How could this happen? Me? The one that likes to just talk about almost anything on this site because it is MY creative outlet, was actually not having anything to blog about.

As I was driving into school this morning ( yeah, I'm still there) I was trying to come up with a logical conclusion that made sense to me, and of course you too as to why I did not post. I decided that it started off as writers block...
Then it was because I just did not have anything to write about and then I realized... I could of easily posted a Wordless Wednesday photo and showed you our Chi-Chi-Chi-ChiaPet my husband bought for the kids because it was his one childhood fantasy that never came true (true story).I could have taken a little time to tell you how we even had an opportunity to take a mini vacation with some friends, camping and boating up at Red Top Mountain and Lake Alatoona. You probably would have laughed and shook your head when I told you how we got rained on the very first night and that we would have made any boyscout troop proud by the way we got our tarps up over our tents and campground even in the rain and lightening. Then in spite of it all, still had a perfect campfire just long enough after the storm to satisfy the kids craving for s'more's.Oh and yeah, there was that time my daughter had her emotional melt down all due to the American Girl doll I promised her 4 years ago, THAT I NEVER GOT HER...
...#sheesh That was a nightmare.

And just to give you something sentimental and mushy to cling to, I should have wrote how just so very recently I came to the realization that my babies are not really babies anymore. How this summer seems like the summer they have grown up more than I want to acknowledge and I wish I could turn back 10 yrs. *sigh*

Yeah, looking back I don't think I have much of an excuse for not blogging. But hey, at least I just caught you up to speed !
*wink*

Sometimes dreams do come true

2011-05-16T06:16:00.000-07:00

I can recall last year how eager I felt to write a blog post when I woke up so very emotionally full from a dream. It was so moving to me that as soon as I woke up I immediately took out my net book and started pecking away at the keyboards for fear that I would forget the powerful impact it made upon me. In my dream I was a motivator, a source of empowerment and a light to a young woman. In real life I do not now her, she was a random non recognizable person of my reality. But in my dream it was as if we had a connection. You can read about what I wrote HERE.

Well after that time, I began to look more within myself and realized that I wanted to get more involved with public speaking, more specifically with women and women's issues. I wasn't quite sure how or when it would occur but I just started THINKING it, BELIEVING it, and SPEAKING it. Even when some snickered and smirked at how I CLAIMED it. But I had to overcome some insecurities, take my head out of it (which is hard for me because sometimes my brain won't quit) and follow my heart. With a little motivation and inspiration from a couple of family members, friends and my coach/Lightcaster I reached back, threw out my line and got a couple of bites! laughing at my own self for that analogy, because I seriously do not like fishing but my bait-casting, fishing pole toting, bass fishing husband totally does. Regardless, I got an offer to speak and I totally loved it! Even more importantly it was for The Younger Women's Task Force of Atlanta during Women's health and wellness week....right up my alley. I am looking forward to my future endeavors, big or small I will appreciate them all. Hey! that rhymes! ;) To check out more detail of what I spoke about and what my whole experience was like please click on over to www.bebeautfullywell.com

The current soundtrack or playlist of my life- my top 8 in heavy rotation

2011-04-18T08:00:00.000-07:00

I sort of chuckled to myself as I was writing the title because I wondered if using the term soundtrack was outdated. Kind of like talking about records and tapes instead of CD's, it's a new day and a new era. Oh well you know what I mean, Music!

Last week I posted about Track One on my mental soundtrack and why it was playing in my head through out the week. Well I decided to share a few more of the songs in my soundtrack. Go through my list and tell me if you feeling it too.

Current Soundtrack, er-uh, play list of my life
Track 1. Keep on moving *Soul II Soul
Track 2. All of the lights *Kanye West & friends
Track 3. In a sentimental mood (the Love Jones song, although beautiful long before the movie made it popular) *John Coltrane
Track 4. Encourage yourself *Donald Lawrence & the Tri-City Singers
Track 5. Smile *Kirk Franklin
Track 6. Three little birds *Bob Marley
Track 7. Moment for life *Nikki Minage
Track 8. Lose my mind! * Busta Rhymes

*photo credit : phonographplayers.com

Keep on moving, don't stop like the hands of time !: Track one in the soundtrack of my life

2011-04-14T13:05:00.000-07:00

..."

It's our time
time today
the right time is here to stay

Stay in my life
my life always
yellow is the colour of sunrays
I hide myself from no one
I know the time will surely come... "

Those are part of the lyrics to the song by Soul II Soul and it is currently playing in my head.

It plays in my head at any given time during the 5 days that I am in school. I love it when I am there and I am excited by what I learn and am eager to apply it to the "real world" but It is hard for this woman to get there some days! I mean, the 6:40 am hour drive can be pretty daunting. And If I don't get my coffee? I'm jus' sayin' - IT'S AND AUTOMATIC SITUATION, lol!

But through it all I am realizing and learning more and more that I am not in this alone. As I am walking through the halls and working in treatment rooms I am finding myself in the company of some phenomenal women. I am hearing their stories listening in amazement as I study with women learning to reinvent themselves, triumphs over self hate and abuse, determination to start businesses and passions for helping others to make a transformation in mind body and spirit. Through the various interchanges of success and failures I drive home in heavy contemplation because I am encouraged and in awe. Some of my classmates are fresh out of high school, some already have degrees and licenses in other fields and you have ladies like me who have not had this length of schooling in 20 years. Either way, it all spells sacrifice.

With so much inner beauty surrounding me, I have to keep with the standard. Listen to track one and remember that my goal is not too far ahead. Four more months and counting. I think I can see the horizon a little bit clearer now...#winning

Wordless Wednesday : spring is in the air, time for new beginnings.

2011-04-06T20:17:00.001-07:00

This is a bird nest that we found in one of our shrubs. Two baby birds just hatched out of their eggs. *awwww*

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Out of the mouth of babes

2011-03-28T05:41:00.000-07:00

It's so beautiful how children come into this world, all cute and cuddly. Completely edible, that we just cannot seem to get enough of their cuteness. We hug & kiss them constantly, tickle them and make funny faces just to see them laugh joyfully. Watch them sleep in the crib as we imagined who they will become in the upcoming years. I practically inhaled my children in the early days...

Fast forward to the adolescent and tween years and the picture may not always be so glorious. I've gotten past the glory days and unbeknown to myself, my children could feel it too. Imagine my surprise when my daughter commented: "mommy, how come when you are talking with your friends you laugh alot, and you laugh really hard. But when you listen to one of our jokes or stories you only chuckle or smile? " Son on the sidelines co-signing :"Yep!" Hmmm, REALLY? I only chuckle? I thought about it and realized she had a really good observation going. How could I even deny it? Not that I could anyway, my children have the ability to present their case to the judge and jury astoundingly, right along with the best lawyers of defense.

So my children came up with a plan, an intervention if you will to make me laugh really hard with them. They double teamed me and tickled until I begged for mercy! It was all so simple yet completely effective, I laughed so heartily that I cried. The looks on their faces and the joyous laughter coming from there bellies was priceless.

Lessons to be learned: 1)The glory days are not always gone, we simply just have to be active to reach back to bring them back up. 2)Laughter is very good for the heart of all that partake.

*Image used from My blue muse

Consequences, rewards and getting it done.

2011-03-21T05:54:00.001-07:00

This is what I WAS going to post a couple of weeks ago :

" I decided I'm going on strike. Yep I am proposing a strike on cleaning. Well , sort of. *sigh* I'm not going to completely give up and let it go but i just feel the need to rebel in some way. I mean if everyone else in the house can take a firm stand against cleanliness and order, then why can't I ?

I'm just saying, if the MISTER & the kids can take off their shoes in the kitchen, leave the laundry unfolded in the living room, forget to wipe the toothpaste off the sink then..."

However, after having a very enlightening conversation with a fellow hard working, multi-tasking, still keeping it flly mama, I decided to make some adjustments in my attitude and save my sanity.

How? Well just by giving out a true dose of reality, and a little tough love, with the kiddies at least. The hubby? Thats a whole other situation! CLICK HERE to see what I mean.

I am on a hectic schedule, and as the family grows so does the mess. I was trying to do my part but also found myself doing THEIRS or nothing at all. The house and I was suffering. Anyway, I realized that all i needed to do was set out the plan and expectation along with consequences and rewards, then let them do the rest. Setting up a schedule and creating lists is not a new concept to me. In fact I was raised with notes and schedules attached to the fridge. I have written them out myself over the years. However, writing them down and distribution means nothing if not taken seriously. So, I.GOT.SERIOUS. !

Consequences are in full effect, and because I'm such a loving mom :) I also gave rewards and a point system. What I am asking of them is being accomplished and not blown off. Now of course, they had to TRY A SISTA but I commenced to regulating and they got the point. "Homie don't play 'dat!"

Yeah, all is well in the Hicks family again, more importantly it's cleaner.

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May I please? - giving and understanding permission at the Brownie Monologues

2011-03-01T06:26:00.000-08:00

You ever have those nights with your girlfriends or even by yourself where the order of the night is a big pan of brownies and some seriously insightful conversation? And as the night progresses the discussion and the brownies get better with every.single.bite, and you walk away feeling ever so full, nurtured and satisfied?

Well that is what the Brownie Monologues were all about. Well, sort of...it WAS all that I mentioned except there was some testosterone in the building. Whaaaat?Yeah, I brought a MAN. I brought my honey with me because I was trying to kill two birds with one stone. You know... have a little date night too. **giggle giggle, at least HE was enlightened*

Anyway, as the night progressed and each woman shared her challenges and how or why she wanted to change something in her life I found a little bit of myself in her too. It made me so very aware, yet again that my challenges are not completely unique. As women (and some men), we each share a similar story within our own individual stories. The stories told, ranged from self image to maternal imagery and reflection, people pleasing & guilt to entrepreneurship and more. Not only were these discussed but some resolves & solutions were exchanged. I loved it! They were shining their light and I was reflecting it.

One thought organically became the theme for the evening. Giving ourselves permission. I thought that to be powerful. Because, sometimes I didn't realize how much pressure it relieves me in my everyday living and beyond when I gave myself permission to say yes or say no or to let go to something or someone. And as many of us in the room realized, there is so much more happiness and joy within our mind, body and spirit when we give permission. For me it is not permission to bounce wherever with whoever without regard or focus. But permission with balance, clarity, love & intent.

This was the inaugural Brownie Monologues and so they promised there will be more. Even better, they encouraged us to continue, if we have not already been doing so, to create our own Monologues. It's good for the soul, it can only mean a better YOU, a better ME. So now we have PERMISSION ....where are the brownies?

My fashion is ALWAYS a work in progress

2011-02-10T16:17:00.000-08:00

I'll admit it to you, I've never been blessed with the gift of having a totally dope styling sense. 90% of the time I am in heavy analysis over what to wear before going out for a social or professional event. I'm not horrible at putting together an outfit I mean, I can "pass". I think that I got this issue from my momma (hehe, everything always goes back to momma), maybe it was because she never encouraged me to develop my own fashion sense as a child. I rarely had creative control over my own wardrobe until I was 12 years old. *sigh* I fought hard for my styling Independence and finally won it at the age of 13 and it's been a roller coaster ride ever since.

In the last 12 years with the birthing of two children, being a stay at home mom and then an entrepreneur in the wellness industry, I have fallen into some fashion traps. Due to work with clients, clinic hours at school, or running around with kids my outfit consists of black yoga pants, black t-shirts and sneakers. WTH? So boring ! It's okay when I HAVE to wear it but the problem comes in when I DON'T have to. What is even worse is that I have TWO friends who are FIERCE with their style and do styling for a living. I really have no excuse right?

Someone else that is awesome at styling for a living is VirtuousOne. She and the Execumamma will be blogging live on Saturday morning ALL ABOUT STYLE ! They are gonna be sharing all types of delicious tips I'm so sure. Giving advice on topics such as emotional shopping to Hootchie Mamma dressing...mmmhmmm !. I'm going to be at school getting my clinic hours and can't participate...boooooo! But please believe I will be checking in on twitter, following hastag #BlogLive5 as soon as I get a break, this Sistar has got's ta do betta!

A family's determination to get a book in a child's hands

2011-02-01T06:00:00.000-08:00

As a lover of reading I cannot remember a time in my life when reading was not apart of it. My weekly trips to the local library with my mother as a child left huge imprints on me. It was there with her that I was able to see a whole new world outside of my own. Right there within those four walls and the reach of my fingertips I could read about anybody, anytime, and anyplace. In my home it was never unusual to see my mother with a book in her face, and whenever I had the nerve to say I was bored she would quickly tell me "go read a book, as long as you have books you wont be bored."

Mommy said it and she was right.

Although I was fortunate to have the joy of reading influenced by my mother, that is not always the case for many children. Particularly African American children or other children of color. So I was really delighted to know that New York Times best selling author Denene Millner and her husband Nick Chiles are co-founders of and launching North Paran, A site that promotes books for, by and about black people. I love to read all types of books from all types of authors, but as a black woman myself I also enjoy reading books about people like me. And it is especially important for me to have books that are relatable to my own children. North Paran has books to cover all interests for adults and children...they even have a bargain book section (love it!). Even better, for every book that is purchased they will donate a book to a needy child. This is wonderful, a great way to give back to the community. For the child whose mother or father cannot or does not take them to the library, read to them or just can't afford it there is still an opportunity for them to develop their reading skills. I plan on showing my support and I hope you do to.

*Click here to see the brief video of Denene, Nick and the kids discuss North Paran.Then go check out the site for yourself!

Pushing forward , possibilities and opportunities

2011-01-29T08:00:00.000-08:00

I’m feeling really good right now, kinda breezy. My mind is swirling with ideas and possibilities. I love this feeling. It is the feeling that I get regarding entrepreneurship that pushes me to the next level. Then when I attended the Atlanta Blogger's Connect Seminar yesterday, I knew I was on the right track. According to Lamar Tyler it is called c.r.u.s.h. - can’t rest until something happens ! I have a passion for what I do and I am delighted that I can share it with others and at the same time make a living from it too. Can it get any better than that?

*Check the video

However , just in typical fashion of life nothing comes easy. Sometimes it is trial and error, blood sweat and tears along with many late nights deep in thought. Without encouragement and focus it is so easy to second guess myself, my intentions and my abilities. Which is why I was so happy to see an article sooo right on time from the execumama Akila. I don’t know how she knew my thoughts, how she understood my unspoken feelings but her post “3 reasons to not give up on entrepreneurship” was sheer perfection. ( not that I wanted to give up, but it can be hard on a sister sometimes)

*check her article

Between her post, The Gatekeepers Are Gone web series and my own ambitions. I am ready for the next level. I believe I can do it. What about you? Do you have similar feelings about your own possibilities and opportunities? Go for it!

What I realized about Joe

2011-01-28T13:46:00.000-08:00

Earlier this week I made a decision to step away from the Joe. Okay, so maybe I took like 10 steps away. Everyone that knows me is aware of how I love thee, so needless to say it's been tough. I have always heard that coffee can really dehydrate a persons body, and that for every cup of coffee you should chase it down with two cups of water. A few years ago while under the care of my naturapath doctor, I was advised to leave the coffee alone.

Blah, blah , blah my love and borderline addiction kept me from heeding the counsel. Fast forward to the present day.... I'm looking in on a skin analysis demonstration by my esthetics's educator who very strategically allows my classmates and I to witness a classic case of completely dehydrated skin under the all seeing magnifying lamp. To say the least, I was scared straight !
Oh my goodness, What?!

After taking a closer look at my own skin with an esthetician's eye, I was able to see what I've been doing to my skin which is EXTERNAL. I don't even want to see what could be going on INTERNALLY. Needless to say I been moisturizing like it's going out of style and guzzling water like a fish taken out of it's element!

I am normally a person who tries to stay on the path of wellness, but by my own admittance I need encouragement in certain areas. I must admit nothing encourages a woman better than the threat of losing her external beauty (Vanity , I know).

I always say "TIMING IS EVERYTHING" , this all happens on the skirt tail of the Health and Wellness tweetup I attended two weeks ago.

Changes and growth occur when we are ready to receive them. Balance is key.
I'm motivated yet again.

When we sweep the dust under the rug, throw skeleton bones in the closet, it all gets exposed during a snow storm

2011-01-19T14:05:00.000-08:00

Last week the great snow storm of 2011 in Atlanta was like an amazing test of human nature. With so many people stuck inside their homes, many were getting cabin fever. The first day or two wasn't so bad. It was kinda cute....you know? You make a little fire in the fireplace and sipped wine while admiring the winter wonderland from the window ( well, at least that's what I did). Families had some bonding time, pulled out the old boardgames, had Wii competitions, baked, slept and many adults found some very adult ways to pass the time *wink, wink*.

However by the end of day 3 and consecutively the 4th-5th days, folks was about to go bonkers! Kids were bored outta their minds and people was so desperate they was walking to the store in the snow for items as small as a pack of m & m's !

Recently on a local radio show it was announced that past psychological studies have shown that two things happen during times such as these. One : 9 months from now there will be an increase in babies born (result of the very adult ways to pass the time) and Two : separations, divorce, breakups and familial dissension occurs.The latter situation I think is so sad, although I know it is such a reality for many. Mainly because life is so busy, people take relationships for granted and do not take the proper time to cultivate them. Often times family meals are rushed, communication is done during transportation to and from work, school, team practice, etc. foundations for successful relationships are not being made solid. I have a feeling that the issues within the various families and relationships which have been swept under the rug previously, were then staring people right smack in the face. Which means they had to DO SOMETHING about it.

Instead of taking the easy way out, I hope that many folks proved the study wrong and made positive steps in the right direction if it was at all possible. To see the negative in something, someone, or even our self can be good if handled and addressed in a positive and progressive way. Maybe the great snow storm of 2011 will prove to be a catalyst for revelations creating better and healthier relationships.

Just a thought

Chores and Cravings

2011-01-12T08:39:00.000-08:00

This morning at 4:30 am I woke up and made
THIS :
LIVER AND ONIONS WITH RICE

THEN I decided to do THIS:
LAUNDRY.
Three loads of it. I guess I got my Motivation back.
Yeah I know...WEIRD

A passing opportunity

2011-01-11T16:46:00.000-08:00

So we all know about the big 2011 Snowstorm that has affected GA and the surrounding areas. Schools have shut down, highways, interstates and jobs are also non-functioning. Leaving many people indoors and getting really reacquainted with members of the same household.

What a great time to snuggle up, play games , eat great comfort food and catch up on things. All great opportunities, EXCEPT ...Ive not been doing the latter . I'm good at snuggling, eating and playing. *Sigh* Motivation is just not here. This is the perfect time to get out those blogposts that are floating in my head. Finish up my project for school, or even organizing my closets. No Motivation. Why? I don't know but, I'm just gonna ride this out with hopes that the "M word" will return to me.

Seriously hoping for some motivation and inspiration.....

Just call me Mommy Dearest

2011-01-06T05:43:00.001-08:00

I was thinking last night, a recurring thought that I am similar to my mother. Yeah I admit it, the woman who I thought was pretty eccentric and took drastic measures to get her point across is actually living somewhere inside of me. She has taken up residence and like an annoying nieghbor she kind of likes to make surpise visits in my mind when I least expect it.

It seems to always happen when I'm dealing with the kids.*hint* It is always then at the hieght of the kid crisis that I think "Aha! I know what will fix 'em" and then I have my "Ramona Moment". The moment when my kids look at me like they are certain I am from another planet, the look that says " is this CHICK for real, for real? " For a brief moment as I look in their eyes I totally understand how THEY feel, but in another flash I totally understand how SHE felt. Then I proceed with my own eccentric and drastic measures mixed with some of hers, to get my point across...

Mothers have to do what they gotta do to raise decent, moral, respectable citizens (as my mother would say) and now that I am a mother, I concur. Does that make me "Ramona - Like" ? Maybe so...oh well, maybe it's not that bad after all.

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Eat, pray, love : my review

2011-01-03T20:21:00.000-08:00

What can I say about this book? What one word can I use to describe they way I felt when reading this book ?

Connected

Yes, as Elisabeth went through her journey for a period of 9 months or more through Italy, India, and Indonesia I felt connected. She was witty and able to laugh, cry and be angry with herself and her experiences. Within each country, she allowed herself to be in the moment to feel each emotion that was brought up. She worked through them no matter how uncomfortable it was physically or emotionally. I enjoyed peeking through her life and rejoicing with her when she had her "aha!" moments. During her times of clarity I was put in deep thought. Her satisfaction and connection with spirituality, made me reflect and have gratefulness.

I am so glad I read this book first. Now I'm ready for the movie, pass the popcorn please!

Reflections

2010-12-31T07:48:00.000-08:00

It seems like every year on December 31st we hear the same phrases "where did the year go!" "It just zoomed by!" " I can't believe a new year is upon us!" The funny part to me is that we always have the same amount of time, it's just how we choose to use it or not that makes it feel like it has "zoomed" past us.

Upon the close of the present year and arrival of the new we naturally look back on the good, the bad and the ugly that went on in our lives. As I look back on my year I have to admit that I had so many good things to happen, I can only be grateful. New business venture, new house etc. Yes there were some material gain in 2010, but my emotional & mental growth has been what is most amazing to me. I feel as though the barriers that kept me from being my best self had been lowered if not removed from in front of me. This, primarily due to feeling that enough was enough, realizing that my own inabilities to move on and let go were my biggest hurdles. Finally "getting it." Truly understanding my own worth. Understanding my feelings, accepting them, working with them and being okay with them. To take off the heavy amount of pressure that I put upon myself regarding various relationships was such a relief ! This all happened during a process or a series of processes not always easy on the psyche but oh so very worth it. The end result is HAPPINESS AND CONTENTMENT....what a sweet way to end 2010.

I am open, ready and willing to accept all good things 2011 is going to bring me.

I wish my jeans could travel, or something like that.

2010-12-29T08:33:00.000-08:00

Yeah, something like that...kind of like the Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants. Honestly, I never saw the movie or read the books (although I plan too), but the name and the concept speaks for itself and I think its kind of cool.

Unfortunately, my jeans and I do not belong to the Traveling Pants group. The exact reason why I am sad and saying Rest In Peace to them. In case you did not know by now, these are not JUST a pair of jeans. No, these are my FAVORITE pair of jeans. These jeans have seen me through thick and thin, literally. They are the only jeans I could wear through my yo-yo weight and still look good on me. They just adjusted to every curve I gained and each inch I lost. These jeans loved me and were loyal to me no matter what!

Over the years after much washing they began to get those tears and rips. I didn't care, it just made me and my jeans look "cooler", "hip" and "funkier". We had rips in the front and rips in the back and we were okay with it. That is until recently.....I tried them on and came to the conclusion that old faithful has gone as far as she could go. I have pushed her to her limit and it seems that she cannot adjust herself to accept my "newest set of curves." We no longer look cool , hip and funky. We just look like...well, you get the point.

So I have to say goodbye, I wish I could pack her up and send her off to the next woman in some other town, some other country, some other city. I just cannot stand to throw her away. Maybe I could donate her to the goodwill! *side eyes* Then one day I will be walking down the street minding my own business with my NEW JEANS and look over to see Her with someone else. Looking cool, hip and funky. My mind would quickly shift back to all the fun times we had back in 'da day. Remembering how she used to fit me like that too. **sigh** I know, I know, I need to just let go ...

Do you think all good jeans go to HEAVEN?

My lightbulb moment

2010-12-13T19:22:00.000-08:00

Had a situation today that really put some "light" on how life works. It was actually kinda funny. One of those things that secretly make you feel like a dummy, looking over your shoulder for the hidden camera because this had to be a joke, right?

Well okay, here is some background info. We bought a new house 6 months ago. Fairly new, barely lived in and empty for over two years. Generally everything is in good condition, but as time went on we noticed there were some minor repairs that needed to be done on some major components of the house. It seemed like one by one, little by little something was breaking down. And let's just be honest here, no matter how minor it is a breakdown of any sort is ALWAYS inconvenient.

Two months ago, the lights in the family room stopped working. "Great! just Great!" We complained. Tried checking the wiring, and even made an appointment for an electrician to come to the house and do some inspecting. He hasn't made it here yet. That's what happens when you ask your homeboy to come out. but ANYWAY... We have just been making do, using whatever other light source we had to see whenever we were in that room. Often using the light from the open door of another room nearby, or the light from the computer screen.

Today however, I was changing the light bulb in my laundry room and I got the bright idea to put a light bulb in the family room too. I honestly didn't think it would do any good, but I figured I should just go ahead and do it now and not wait until later. So that once we got the wiring fixed I would not have to look for a bulb. Low and behold, I twisted the bulb in and then flipped the switch (just because) and there was light! Huh? Was that all that was needed all this time? Wowwwwwww, I had to chuckle at the simplicity of the situation. Talk about turning an anthill into a mountain!

Basically, because of the other issues we were facing with the house we approached the missing light situation with the same expectation. We were beginning to view everything that was going on with the house as a problem and so therefore grudgingly approached the missing light in the family room the same way. We did not look at it for what it simply was, a light bulb that needed to be changed. WE made it complicated, WE made it a serious problem. WE did not handle it as it's own entity, it was lumped all together without distinction. WE just did not consider all the possibilities.

This situation made me reflect on life. How often do we handle issues that pop up this way? Just adding each issue to the next and rolling it all into one? Creating one big problem, approaching them all with the same expectation? Sometimes though when we take on each problem as it's own compartment and deal with it accordingly we will see that it is not always soooo serious. Some issues are heavy and weighty while others are really just simple and require little to no work at all. Often the challenges of our lives are what we make them out to be.

Truly a light bulb moment....

A new series

2010-12-10T08:06:00.000-08:00

Some of y'all might know this and some of y'all don't, but - "ahem!" I am an avid reader. Well at least I used to be. Back in da day, when I had more time on my hands It would mean nothing for me to read an entire book in one night. Finish 2-3 books in a week! I love to read and always have, ever since I can remember learning to read. Like, I just jumped from reading Dr. Seuss to the novels on my mother's bedside table. Over the years, my passion for reading has not changed, but my time and priorities have. Therefore I have not been able to read as much or in the fashion that I prefer.

Lately though, I am feeling that ol' feeling again. Once I finish one book, I am ready for the next one. Perhaps not within the same week, heck not even in the same month sometimes! But nonetheless, ready for my next good read. Just like my music preferences, I am versatile with my books. I like to read romance, mystery, motivational, self-help, christian, comedy and even adventure.

I have seen a few of my fellow blogger's post about books they have read. Their perspective on books are interesting and because I feel that I know them, I trust their opinion on whether the book is good or not. Since I am back on the scene with my book reading I decided that I would like to add a new series to my blog. It will be of course my very own book review, not sure what I will call this series but I will be sure to give my reviews an honest rating with a very sincere approach. I figured this will be something different than my usual, but kind of similar to my Tasty Tuesday Recipe Series I had going on for a while. I'm a little excited about my new blogging venture. It's a new creative outlet for me, I hope you will be excited about it too.

People are getting "Nutmeg Wasted" these days, it's the new Scary Spice

2010-12-09T09:42:00.000-08:00

Today I went to the store to pick up some cough medicine, I've been battling a bad cough for about a week now. After nearly coughing up a lung, I decided enough is enough I gotta take something. While paying for my purchase, the woman at the register wants to know my birthday. Huh? What? I ask her why did she need my personal information just for me to get my over the counter medication. I was informed that it was a new rule, just as in purchasing alcohol or cigarettes. Really? I thought "things must be getting bad if OTC meds are having to be regulated." But then the woman behind the counter reminded me of a a new trend in "getting high" among young people today.....Using Nutmeg. Yep! I know right? Who does that? Herbs, yes I've heard of THAT. I have even heard of Cloves (another spice) and it was not really surprising to me. But, nutmeg ? I'm too old to understand this stuff. Well, apparently lots of kids / teens / young adults do. So I came home and googled it, and just as it was told to me I saw it for my own eyes. I went to Third Age website and saw THIS article. In this economy, people are looking for inexpensive ways to get high, legally. Folks are even on Youtube demonstrating this "Homemade Nutmeg High". Of course most normally think of it as a tasty spice, but in years past it was commonly used in a medicinal way for treatment of rheumatoid arthritis and other conditions. In addition it has been proven that in large doses it can be fatal. I feel bad for the kids and the parents dealing with this situation. As the lady at the register said and I agreed : " when I was a kid, I just wasn't that smart to think of these things nor was I that desperate." I'm just shaking my head and shaking my head some more. I guess desperate times call for desperate measures, but goodness gracious is anything used for it's natural purpose anymore?

Stamp of approval

2010-12-08T14:27:00.000-08:00

The other day, while on my day off I was working like a busy worker bee. Just buzzing around from one chore to the other, remembering to take appropriate breaks for reading, eating or something else that I enjoyed. As each child came home rom school, I kissed them as a mother should and asked them about their day. Dinner was served in a timely fashion and as I cleaned up our dinner mess I had a thought :

"I've done a lot today"

I had to ponder on that thought for a little bit. Reflect on the pattern of the day. I have to admit I felt proud of it. When I sat down on my sofa in my very clean living room, looking into my very clean kitchen sighing with appreciation at the thought of my laundry being done and my bathroom was clean, I was HAPPY. I felt happy because I got things done according to MY standards, in a way that made me feel satisfied. I realized that it has been a while since I felt THAT good and confident about what I did with my day. Actually I realized that all too often I, as well as other women like myself do not give enough credit to ourselves. With self induced pressure I find myself focusing on all that I DID NOT do rather than all that I HAVE DONE. What a waste of energy! It is so much better on the Psyche to focus on the positive aspects of life, the small goals that we have accomplished. Why beat ourselves up over the the things that cannot be done, or for that matter what we don't feel like doing?

I am Not super woman (most of the time), nor am I a robot. I have been learning acceptance and looking toward myself for approval. Which means that I understand if I DON'T do everything perfect, because I recognize that I don't NEED to and I'm okay with that. I am becoming my own best supporter as opposed to my own worst enemy. I am really liking this person I am becoming, the more I get to know her the more I love her. (I know I'm speaking in 3rd person right now...it's okay) Kudos to her for having a great day of getting things done, enjoy it because as in true fashion it will be a different story tomorrow!

I really, REALLY don't want to...

2010-11-30T21:13:00.000-08:00

Yeah so, I've been having a couple of bad hair days...okay, weeks....Alright ! Months! I'm just gonna put it out there, I hate to do my own hair. Ever since I was about 17 I have always went to the salon on consistent basis. I was the faithful client, never missing an appointment and doing whatever I needed to (legally) pay for the service. Come Hook or Crook, I got my hair "did."

Well these days I cry a different story. I still go to the salon...just not as often as before. The bad part is that I am so accustomed to getting it done, that it has made me lazy. I will go as lonnnnng as I can before I break down and commit to doing my loc maintenance ( tightening or twisting of the new growth from my dread locks). To make matters worse, I am not the best at preventive care for my hair. I know, shame on me. I do know better, I mean how hard can it be to put on a little Castor oil or Shea butter and put a silk scarf on my head before bedtime? Obviously for me it is on the high end of the difficulty scale.

Fast forward to my current visit for my daughter to our salon of choice Honeecomb natural hair . While my daughter is getting her hair washed, conditioned and interlocked I can feel the disapproving eyes of my stylist. Although we are chit-chatting away, picking up where we left off from the previous visit...Yeah, she's checking it all out with the sharp eye of a professional who is serious about her *stuff*. Just when I thought I was gonna walk away unscathed, she let me have it! Ever so gently... As she gave me my goodbye hug, she felt my locks. DRY, BREAKING, & IN GROWTH LIMBO. Oh what shame. *smh* I tried to go home and ignore the nagging thoughts of what she said, but it wouldn't go away.

Aaaarrrrggghhhh! I wanna scream, shout, even kick something. I. don't. wanna. do. THIS.

The nagging thoughts won. The bad thing about nagging thoughts though, is that you never know when you may have to give in to them. My time happened to be the very inconvenient time of 4 a.m. . I couldn't take it any more. I did what I had to do, washed, conditioned and maintained.

After all of that emotional turmoil, I have to admit....I do look kinda cute. ;)

It was a fat chance

2010-11-23T14:28:00.000-08:00

Today I played hooky from school, yep I did. I went to bed with every intention of getting up at 5:30 am, leaving my house by 6:30, fight the traffic and sit at my desk at 8.
That's what my body was planning to do. My mind had other ideas. So it just did not happen.

I feel bad about it....well kinda. I just wanted one more day to lay around and do nothing. Actually I was doing somethings like; checking my humongous pile of emails, doing my follow up calls, and adjusting my calenders. I even found a little bit of time to study. I wanted to be doing stuff, I just didn't want to leave the house to do it. I wish there was a way to skype with my class on days like this. Although that may make it just toooooo easy. Habitual line steppers like myself just may take advantage.

This whole going to school 5 days a week thing is getting to be hard on a sista. Gotta stay focused. I promise I will be a better student tomorrow. Can't make any promises for next month.

... Featuring Norah Jones

2010-11-22T18:20:00.000-08:00

Okay, I hate to admit it but I cannot say that I was a Norah Jones fan prior to now. I know, some of you might be staring blankly at the screen right now wondering "what's my deal. " Really I don't know why I never liked to listen to her sing I Don't Know Why...Go figure.

Fast forward to 2010 with the release of her newest CD featuring cameos, duets and collaborations with many other artists that I absolutely love. Her work with artists such as Herbie Hancock, Talib Kweli, Dolly Parton and Willie Nelson has me scratching my head and wondering where I went wrong with this woman. Obviously I had a misconception, and closed minded view of her talent. I allowed my opinion of one song to over shadow all of her other work. Shame on me.

When given the chance to review her CD I went for it, looking for a chance to try something new and was pleasantly surprised. I could not get enough of it! I am playing this CD daily hearing her renditions of certain songs I was already familiar with such as ; Baby It's Cold Outside & Here We Go Again. I have even been turned on to other songs and artists that I have not heard of before such as ; the Dirty Dozen Band (Ruler of my heart) , The Little Willies (Love Me) and Sasha Dobson (Bull Rider).

The musical selections span over a period of 9 years. Obviously 9 years that I have missed out on. Excuse me while I hit the repeat button...

The Cd is available in stores now. Go to Norah Jones Official website for more info. You can also check out her YouTube channel for interviews and behind the scene scoops on her collaborations.
*No money was given for the review of this CD. However through my affiliation with One 2 One network, I was provided the CD to give my honest opinion*

Hidden lessons from dear aunt Shirley

2010-11-11T06:08:00.000-08:00

Lately, I have been in heavy thought about my dear, great aunt Shirley. She always held a special place in my heart since as long as I can remember. Perhaps it was her stylish ways that just kept me captivated. She was full of color, and had a very engaging smile and a LA-DEE-DA way about herself. She was such the diva in our family, and she gladly let it be known too! That is sort of the joke among some family members, when we begin to act in "high society"ways that are reminiscent of Shirley. Each of us secretly wanting to have some characteristics of her apart of us.....I mean, it's in our DNA to have a little bit of diva in us right? Only Natural.

*I pause in recollection, with a smile*

Well lately, I have been feeling so close to her although she is passed on. I feel close to her in the sense that I am finding myself drawn to some of the things that was so "classic" of her, putting her in my thoughts almost daily. Feeling like I can understand her reasoning on somethings, and wondering if this was the age of which she began to "be" the certain way that we all came to love about her. It makes me smile, when I see her reflected in me as I am more and more doing small things like her.

There were two things that she always did; 1) She always drank champagne and 2) she always wore sexy satiny lounge wear. In my memory of her, she did not have a special occasion to do these things. It was her routine. She was fancy and glamorous. Up until recently I just used to laugh it off, and think that was just her being "extra". But I have to realize lately that she was on to something and we just needed to catch up to her level. *side eye, sly grin*
It is in my understanding that her doing these things signified that she celebrated each day. She did not need anything special to sip champagne or wear her satiny pj's....she was worth it all the time. What a lesson! How often do I, do we live our life like it is a celebration? When do we take the time to appreciate our selves, and the small blessings that we have? My aunt Shirley was not a wealthy woman , but she appreciated the fine things, and according to her standards she had the best and she basked in it.

Tomorrow is not promised to anyone, enjoy the blessings in your life today. Share them with your family & friends. Don't wait for the special occasion to use your good china, or your nice tea set. I plan to Be like Aunt Shirley the Diva and pull out the champagne glass, pour myself some bubbly and relax in my satin pj's & robes....remembering that life in itself should be a celebration. The fact that I have yet another day to be my best self is a joyous occasion all it's own.

A valuable lesson indeed. Thanks Aunt Shirley....

Wordless Wed: Beauty on a cloud

2010-11-03T01:45:00.000-07:00

*image from imagefave.com

My New Obsession

2010-10-30T09:30:00.000-07:00

Leggings are my new obsession! I Haven't worn them since high school, but I can clearly remember my first pair in 1985. Going on a little shopping trip with my friends, riding on the Marta Bus heading to the Underground Atlanta. I was looking for something cool to wear the following week to school, this was a big deal for me. Number one, I was riding on the bus heading DOWNTOWN with my friends ALONE and Secondly, my mother was allowing me to shop for MYSELF. What?! You couldn't tell me nothin' honey!
We casually perused Peachtree street, window shopping. All along, laughing and joking at the interesting activities going on that busy and sunny Saturday afternoon. We finally stopped and eagerly went inside of Lerner's and began looking for outfits, sure that we would find our fashion treasure. I felt so grown up trying on my clothes and awaiting the thumbs up from my girlfriends. Anything was better than Mommy telling me what to wear, and what was "in style".
Any way, I eventually came across my prize. A pair of white leggings with the stirrups and pin pleats down the front . Oh! they were so pretty to me. I thought I looked great. The perfect color ( I was going to wear every color shirt I had with it) and the perfect fit, I was a budding young lady who was just on the brink of puberty and wanted to show what little bit of shape I THOUGHT I had.

Yeah, that was then....

Fast forward 25 years later, I would not be caught dead in a pair of leggings. I thought they were for every other girl except me. Well, almost every girl. there have been a few that might have needed to leave those leggings on the rack! But anyway, I digress. I just did not feel comfortable in my own skin to wear something so close fitting to my body, although at this point I got a lot more shape to show than my early puberty years.

Well something crazy came over me and I bought not one but two pairs of leggings! Oh yeah, I was stepping out of my zone....and I liked it! Not because I been working out like crazy, and have this super toned body. Not because I am at the weight and size that I want to be right now. I bought them, just because the time was right. I. am. comfortable. with. ME.

So now, I am obsessed with leggings. I notice them everywhere I go on everybody I see. I notice them all and imagine myself rocking it out in them. I'm on a mission so maybe I'll get them in Purple...

In Gray...
Maybe Brown.... ( I look good in brown)
This would make me look like a really Hot Momma!

Like I said....I'm obsessed

*all photo credits go to Victoria's Secret*

New things added everyday...

2010-10-27T12:00:00.000-07:00

Can someone please turn it off?!! ;)

Visions of growth dancing in my head; My Dream Board

2010-10-19T15:52:00.000-07:00

Have you ever tried to create a plan for yourself? You either make a mental note, or you might even decide to write it down in a journal or some kind of paper only to forget or misplace it. Well at least that is what happens to me sometimes. I think about a lot of things, create a lot of goals however because I am always thinking, thoughts get lost somewhere in my head.

I've often heard people talk about vision boards and last year I was planning on creating one but.... I forgot. *sighhhhhh* Well I recently picked this thought back up and actually followed through on it. I actually did a digital vision board through Oprah.com . It's called the O Dream Board. It lets you create a Dream Board that you can keep on your desktop. This makes it super convenient, to see it all the time especially since so many of us are always on our computers. There is even an option to print your Board at Walgreens if you just have to have something tangible. When creating with the O Dream Board you don't have to worry about gathering magazines, scissors, glue, tape, photos or anything. Just simply use the photo images that is supplied or use your own photos that you can upload. You can even choose your color theme and add quotes, and intentions to the board. There is even an option to create more than one board.

I love it. I have no reason to "forget" now. My Dreams are manifesting as I type....

Want to create your own? Go to http://www.oprah.com/spirit/O-Dream-Board-Envision-Your-Best-LifeTM and download it.

**photo credit - Oprah.com
The opinions expressed in this post are solely my own. I was not asked by Oprah and her staff to promote this product, although it would have been nice if they did. :)

Celeste Alexander Design Studios grand opening

2010-10-18T16:34:00.000-07:00

October 9th I had the opportunity to celebrate the grand opening of Celeste Alexander Design Studios. I just had to go out to Snellville to show her some support. I first met Celeste at the Trumpet Awards gifting suite earlier this year and let me tell you, she is truly a spicy DecoratingSista! She knows how to bring color combinations together with patterns and textures in such a beautiful way. Having designed spaces for several Celebrities in the Atlanta area, there is definitely experience to be found. Celeste does not only work with big names, she will also work with the average person with a variety of budgets. Educating people on how to live beautifully and helping them reach their decorating goals, she does Drapery trunk shows, decorating parties with wine & cheese and private consults....she really gets it in! Not only is her style fabulous, she is also a beautiful person inside and out.

If you are looking for a fresh new look, please check her out at:
2340 Ronald Reagan Pkwy Scenic Hwy 124
decoratingsista@yahoo.com

A positive step for media: I Love My Hair!

2010-10-18T13:17:00.000-07:00

Currently, the Internet is viral with the Sesame Street video "I Love My Hair". When I finally got the chance to see it, my heart was elated. I felt elated because it showed growth on the part of the show. I've always loved Sesame Street, still do. In fact I may occasionally sit down and watch it even now. Of course The show has always had a broad range of people on the show represented, but this hair video just takes it a step further.

I wish when I was growing up that there was more positive media being put out regarding the image of black women. I feel had I seen more of it, I may not have struggled as much as I did with self image growing up. Oh well, it's all water under the bridge now. The most important thing to focus on is that the times have changed and the media is moving forward positively. I was so happy to be able to share this video with my daughter. She has been wearing her natural hair in dreadlocs for 3 years now and how she views herself although being different from her classmates and neighbors is important to me.

I know she nor I are defined by our hair, however the truth of the matter is that when you feel good about what you have on your head your whole self image is improved. Regardless of the hair type, it should be embraced and loved. All girls (and boys) of all races have issues with this at some time or the other in life. Often times though, our little brown ones struggle with it a little more than others. So Kudos to Sesame Street for giving me something else to aid my little girl in loving her natural self.

If you've not seen the video, check it out:

Domestic Violence Awareness Month: "No longer a SECRET"

2010-10-11T21:18:00.000-07:00

I find it interesting that in today's society people can find any and every reason to celebrate, bring awareness to or have a holiday from work or school. It can range from the silliest thing to a very serious thing. With that being said, there are some people who like to "celebrate" and acknowledge it all. Me? Well, I tend to be a little more selective in my celebrations and acknowledgement's.

I was aware of Breast Cancer Awareness being promoted during the month of October, and I am in support of that movement. However, imagine my surprise when I learned that it was National Domestic Violence month too.
I took it upon myself to investigate this info and I was pleasantly surprised to know that on September 22, 2010 President Obama made it official by signing a Proclamation.

This does my heart good to know that more light is being shed on this very sensitive matter. It is vital that voices are heard. More women and children than we are aware of suffer the ill physical and emotional effects of domestic violence. I speak on this subject from personal experience. Coming from a family both immediate and extended where this is/was common place I have seen, heard and experienced more than I care to openly admit. Trust me....it stays with you. A child never forgets their recollections of witnessing or experiencing abuse first hand. Ultimately the physical child grows up and learns to cope, but it is the inner child that always carries the burden.

I feel fortunate that I had other positive forces in my life to help me counteract such negativity so that I was able to break the familial cycle, and I pray that neither of my children find themselves in it. However, not so many children and adults can say the same. Hopefully the more this is spoken of and against, the less of a problem it will be. It starts with early education, support, honesty and communication. Setting aside the month of October to speak about it is a great start, but it shouldn't end after 31 days.

My stance on holidays & celebrations remain the same, The Day is a great reminder but the practice should be done everyday of the year. My theory holds true to speaking on Domestic Violence as well. #SPEAKUP

If you have a couple of more minutes to spare, please view this video with some insightful facts from the White house website and share it with others...

Change of the seasons

2010-10-07T12:44:00.000-07:00

Well, it's that time of year again. The time of year when the nature around us sheds it's physical layers and begin preparing for less activity. I actually really like the fall, it is so beautiful. So many rich colors that warm your soul and cause a person to reflect and give thanks. This is the time of year that I love to go camping with my family, hike nature trails and sit by a nice fire. Oh, and don't forget it's perfect cuddle weather.

I am hoping to get in more reading these next few months going into winter. There are books such as Sula that I have on my nightstand begging me to open it. I hope to also get in some crocheting (yes, I crochet) for my brother's new baby girl to be born this month. I have a list of things that I would like to use this time of the year for. I hope I will be able to scratch them off the list. *Sigh* So much I want to do, better get started 5,4,3,2,1....

Re: Eddie Long or any one else accused, we must educate, support and love the children.

2010-09-28T12:49:00.000-07:00

There is so much talk going on these days regarding the Bishop Eddie Long situation. Everywhere I turn on the news, twitter, facebook and private conversations, his alleged indiscretions are coming up. It seems that people are split right down the line on what he is accused of. They are either believers of his allegations and wish him to be banned from the church or they are playing the devils advocate and acknowledging his alleged wrong doing but emphasizing forgiveness.

My stand point? I'm rather neutral, by nature I am a peace maker. I have been told that I have the ability to stand in the middle of a situation and see clearly both sides. In this case I can't say that I can see both sides ( I tend to only see one side in this case), I think I will just wait for the evidence to be presented in court. The truth will come out then. However, I do have an opinion regarding children and people of position or authority over them.

I feel that parents have got to do a better job of educating their children. Especially since many parents are leaving their children in the care of others i.e. daycare, babysitters, heck even other family members! Often times too, they are encouraged to spend time with fellow worshipers and spiritual leaders (as in the case of Eddie Long's spiritual sons). Of course our children cannot be under us 24/7 but for goodness sakes please teach them how to recognize the signs of a sexual predator!

It is a known fact that the sick minded individuals that are molesting and manipulating children look for certain types. These men and women look for the fatherless, low self esteem, angry, quiet and needy children. Through no fault of their own, they become victims. As parents, guardians, mentors of these children we must teach them to think higher of themselves. To know that it does not matter what a person offers them, they cannot and should not be bought in exchange for inappropriate behaviours. My heart went out to the young man Jamal Parris, when he said that "he loved the Bishop as a father. How he wanted so much to be loved by this person that he was willing to do the things he never thought he would". To know that he and others have been allegedly taken advantage of because of their desperate need for love is what makes me so sad. We must do our best to teach the babies that their love should never have to be bought, and to receive it should never have to hurt.

Often times children and teens will hold in their "secrets" of sexual misconduct because they feel that it will not be believed. We need to do better jobs at reassuring them that they will be believed and that we will have their backs when they come to us. This is not a conversation to be had one or two times. NO! It needs to be had over and over again , because children forget and need constant reassurance. Just like we cannot tell a child that we love them one time and expect them to know and feel it, we cannot have this discussion on sexual misbehavior one time and expect them to follow our advice and come to us immediately if it happens.

I'm not sure who these young men had in their lives, but it bothers me that no one could see the signs of this alleged situation. Are we as parents really seeing our children? Are we also being naive when it comes to various people that we put our children in contact with? When it comes to our children we can never be too safe otherwise we may wind up being sorry. WE must watch, listen and learn our children. To gain their confidence we must look for ways to show them that they can turn to us at any time they feel uncomfortable. The quicker they expose the predator for who and what they are,the less pain & suffering they have to deal with.

The scars that sexual abuse leave are never erased. They may not always be on the surface but underneath the superficial layers it finds ways to remind each victim of it's presence deep inside. As the young man in the interview said, "I will always remember the smell of his cologne, I cannot get the sound of his voice out of my head, I cannot forget the way he made me cry and the many showers I took to wipe the smell from my body"...that my friends is a tortured soul.

I know every child cannot be protected at all times and I am certainly not saying that I have always made the wisest parental decisions. However, this situation has definitely opened my eyes and caused me to see my job as a protector of my children and those around me even clearer.

Remember to talk, encourage, and build up your children. THEN REPEAT. It may save them a lot of heartache in the end.

The Bridal Makeup Expo : my perspective

2010-09-28T03:02:00.000-07:00

Everyone loves a beautiful bride right? There is something about seeing a woman all dressed in white, bouquet in hand gliding to meet the love of her life. It represents hope and love, the continuation of life.Well, this past weekend I had the opportunity to attend the Bridal Makeup Explosion by
Mete' Dela an events planning company. The theme of this event was brides around the world. We were able to watch various brides walk the runway representing the bridal and makeup style of a particular continent. It was spectacular! Especially for me, I never been to an actual runway show before. Back stage there was so much hustle and bustle between the models, stylists, makeup artists and photographers. I kind of felt like I was on the set of America's Next Top Model. And just as we see on the reality shows, there was a divalicious model acting crabby and bratty regarding a particular dress that she did not want to wear. Looks to me like the stylist & make up artist were ready to throw some 'bow's on her and snatch out her lashes, but alas!....the show must go on at all costs.I thought the choice of venue; The Biltmore Ballrooms, in Atlanta Ga was fantastic. There were so many people representing various aspects of the industry. Tables and booths were setup for skincare, photography, videography, makeup and a pamper bar with the Pamp 'n Glam squad (more on that later ;)). There was entertainment, but let me be frank...it could have been better. The singers were more like screamers into the microphones. One group looked like they did not even practice their moves before getting up to perform. I was not impressed and neither were the attendees. Overall though, I thoroughly enjoyed myself. It was a great opportunity to network and meet people, gaining new experiences.

So, I'm ready for the next event! Got an invite?.....

Precious Moments, a perfectly sweet gift giveaway

2010-09-14T01:00:00.000-07:00

I remember the first time I knew that I was pregnant. It was such an overwhelmingly emotional feeling of joy and love all rolled into one. I can remember waiting impatiently until my my 1st trimester was over so that I could begin to buy cute little baby things. Every week I was searching the racks of my favorite stores for anything that I thought would look adorable on my new baby and in his nursery.

For me it was a very big deal to have my baby's room all decked out. It had to be color coordinated with the colors of my choice and everything placed in perfect array. Once it was completed (6 weeks before his birth) I would check the room constantly, imagining my baby laying in his room in royal fashion. ( don't laugh, you know you did it too!)

This past weekend my brother and his girlfriend was given a baby shower by her family. They received such wonderful gifts, all the things that my little princess niece could need. Among the gifts that she received was a Precious Moments 3 piece bedding set. **insert the oohhs and aahhs here** Of course I'm making such a big deal because that was the gift I brought. ;-). I think it will be a precious addition (pun intended) to the decor of the new baby's nursery.

Precious Moments began as a faith inspired artwork over thirty years ago and is still going strong. Recently the company has branched out and opened it's new online Precious Moments Boutique . This is a great online destination for anyone who is a fan of the Precious Moments product. From figurines, to clothing, to bedding and even home and garden! You will find what you want. I know I was impressed by the company when I learned as much as I did from their site. Not only does the creators of PM design all of the afore mentioned things but they even have a park! Don't take my word for it, go to the site to see for yourself all that this product line has to offer.

And if you really have time on your hands you can watch this brief 5 minute video on how the Precious Moments figurines are made.....I thought it was interesting.

And now here is the sweet deal: would you like to win the Precious Moments bedding set for your new baby or as a gift for someone else? Well all you have to do is 1) leave a comment telling me who you want this set for and 2) put out this tweet : "I just entered a Precious Moments giveaway by @hicksgirl93 at www.sandrahicks.blogspot.com"

The contest will end by midnight on 9/18. Wish you the best!

*No money was provided for this blogpost. However the gift item was given in exchange and is provided for the purpose of the contest and promotion*

Taking the stress out of stressful ordering and gift buying, My Milson Road experience

2010-09-13T10:57:00.000-07:00

As most of my readers know, I have recently moved into a new house. Of course, just the thought of moving in itself can cause one to feel a measure of stress. There are so many things to consider and remember; where to place the furniture? Should I get new furniture? I think I might need new pieces of decor to go with the new style of house. And the list goes on and on...

Well, with so many stressful decisions to make, there was one that was stress-less. It was absolutely stress-less when I went online to place my order at MilsonRoad.com for my 17 yr wedding anniversary Daily Portrait. In a few simple clicks I was able to create a customized lead news story that highlighted our wedding in 1993 and our anniversary in the current year of 2010. Throughout the process I was able to pick out not only the frame, but also the type of mat to go with it. Which they offered a nice variety of colors to compliment any home color scheme. The portrait itself is set up to look like an actual newspaper. I thought it was very cool to contrast and compare what was going on in the world on the day and year of our wedding to how things are now in the headlines. It showed the top songs of that year and the top songs of the current year. There were even highlights on best books, fashion, technology and sports. I could even upload my own pictures of the past and present.

I was very impressed at how thorough the Milson Road editing team were, when I submitted my info; such as names, dates, places, etc. I thought I had double checked everything to ensure no typographical error. Low and behold, I get an email regarding the spelling of my husbands name. I was so thankful that they double checked my double checking, because that would have been really embarrassing !

When my daily portrait finally arrived, I was very please by what I saw when I opened my package. The print was wrapped in a very cute lavender gift band ( my fav' color). Even my honey thought it looked great. I proudly hung it up right away. This is definitely worth keeping forever and displaying proudly.

Shortly after receiving it, I invited some friends over to check it out for themselves and share with them my experience. Just like I thought, they loved the concept and was already discussing how they could each use their coupon card that I gave them, courtesy of Milson Road.

Maxine excited about her coupon card she plans to use for parents anniversary. :)

I even had one person in on the conversation via Skype....now that is what I call a virtual party!

Showing my portrait to my friend on skype

These portraits can be purchased for yourself or as a gift for any occasion. Birth announcements, weddings, anniversary, birthdays, or anything that you consider to be a milestone. Whatever you may choose to use it for, you can be sure that it will be unique.

If you want to know more about how you can order one of these fabulous gifts for yourself, go directly to their site: www.MilsonRoad.com

Here is my lovely portrait! isn't it awesome?

*I received this item as a gift in exchange for truthfully sharing my opinion with my friends. No money was given."

Operation Code: Blogalicious in full effect

2010-09-10T10:51:00.000-07:00

Ever want something really bad, you plan for it, think your gonna get it and then *WHOOPS* something happens to take it all away?

Well join the club! That's how I felt when I was making my plans for Blogalicious10 in Miami Florida for next month. I've been super psyched about going, but then I decided to embark upon some new schooling, to expand my profession. Of course school for adults ain't free, so I am having to sacrifice my money for purchasing a ticket to Blogalicious for my monthly school tuition. It was a tough decision, but I had to do it (trying to be a responsible adult). I know I made a good choice, and I realize that my $$'s can only stretch but so far but....".I wanna go sooooo baaaad" *insert really high pitch whiney voice here*

So when I heard about the contest to WIN a ticket to Blogalicious I was all over it like white on rice! I need that ticket, I need to be Miami, I.NEED.TO.WIN

Do you need a ticket too? Well you can enter the contest with Little Tech girl , but I'm gonna go ahead and claim it...."I GOT THIS!* ;)

Finally, someone who understands me!

2010-09-08T08:46:00.000-07:00

A Day of Change

2010-09-02T00:48:00.000-07:00

Within the past year I have had several opportunities to come my way due to my blogging and blogging networks. All of which I have appreciated immensely, however out of them all there is one in particular that is dear to my heart. That would be The Ronald McDonald House Charity.

My first experience with this charity was the Give A Hand campaign. Several blogger's and myself were invited to McDonald's to work side by side with the employees in servicing the customers and asking for a donation to support the charity. Afterward, we were then taken to the actual House and it was amazing. I truly received an education, my eyes were opened.

Fast forward to spring 2010, I was given the privilege of participating in the National Moms Night Out event which provided a dinner, entertainment and pampering services for the mothers of the House. Those women were so deserving, due to their tenacity and love for which they have for their children. The children of whom are dealing daily with very serious illness.

Now , here we are in the current day and I have been given the privilege once again to show support for this wonderful charity. In my short time of dealing with this charity I witnessed with my own eyes how far a small contribution can go. Therefore I make a conscious effort to regularly contribute. A contribution to this charity goes to support the families of children who are fighting for their lives. People who travel many miles just to have the life saving treatment that their children need. The recipients not only receive beautiful and comfortable housing, but they get help in so many other areas.

Last year through the contributions of many people across the nation, RMHC was able to raise 20 million dollars! Wow! That shows that there is power in numbers, when everyone just gives a little it will grow a lot. That is why I am encouraging everyone that I know to remember September 9, 2010 , The National Day of Change. Walk into your local McDonald's search for the donation box and please drop in your pocket change. Use this as an opportunity to teach your child about charity and giving back to help those less fortunate. It's best to teach them now, leading by example.

Your donation will not go to waste. You won't have to worry that your funds are being used appropriately...I've seen it for myself. So , help make a difference in a families life. Give up your pocket change on September 9Th. To learn even more, including viewing video and pictures click here. RSVP for this event on Facebook and share with your friends, get them involved too! There is so much satisfaction in giving.

*this is not a paid post, however I was contacted to share the information with my readers and it is written from the heart*

Always the little things that mean so much

2010-08-31T18:00:00.000-07:00

Recently after a very busy and strenuous week I decided to do something that I love to do but never have the time, * okay, uh, Make Time* for.... a bath.
You know, actually using one of those things that is in the bathroom. It's rather large and hold like 15 gallons of water. Yeah most of the time mine just sits there unused, gathering dust and holding little Nick-knacks on its edge. I have every intention of spending time with it, often dreaming of how high I could fill it up with bubbles. Imagining myself soaking away all my troubles as I inhale the aromatic oils of jasmine and rose. But then, life takes over and I have to opt for the often quick shower.

Finally, I pushed my "schedule" aside and made time for ME. I filled the tub with hot water and began to add my favorite ingredients; Honey, baking soda, avocado oil and Jasmine essential oil. Deep breath in through the nostrils.....ssslllowwwwly exhaling through the mouth. *SIGH*

As I eased my tired body into the therapeutic waters, I felt each muscle relax and all the stiffness went away to a place far, far, away. I set my Pandora stations to my favorite tunes and very soon realized why this was one of my favorite past times. I was able to take real time just for me. I was able to give my body and mind the TLC that it deserved. I realized that I was taking my own self for granted and vowed to remember how I felt at that moment. Making a mental note for an encore...

Why we gotta talk about this huh?

2010-08-27T12:41:00.000-07:00

This is the time in my children's life that I sorta dread. It is the time in which they are very aware, and the light gets brighter and brighter on the concepts that I wanted to keep in a dark corner. Hidden under a basket. Suffocated. It is the time that seems to creep up on adults and take away the innocence from the eyes of the child.

In our home we had a recent stream of incidents that required some explaining of things in depth to the individual children.I Didn't want to, but due to the circumstance it needed to be done. My husband and I try not to make a big deal over such things, well at least not to the kids face. Inside my heart and behind our closed doors I am cringing and feeling sad because I want to keep their eyes and ears virgin like, forever. Of course, we know that option isn't really feasible, and so we press on providing details in increments as they are needed and required.

The most current situation to date involved me having to explain to my 11 yr old about a pkg. of condoms that were found in the nightstand drawer ( stop laughing & stop wondering). My initial reaction was like " well what you doing in my drawer anyway? Stay outta my bizness, chile!" *insert eye roll* But of course that was not the appropriate, responsible adult reaction. My husband was not home for me to throw this burden on his shoulders and off of mine; "hot potato!, hot potato!" The look on this child's eyes told me that I was not getting out of this no time soon. He wanted answers and he wanted them now!

So, I took a deep breath and proceeded to explain some things to him as best as I could. Adding on to the foundation of information he already knew, trying to fill in a few more gaps. I hate this...it feels weird...he looks weird as I tell it.... I would rather not! Where's his daddy?!

Fast forward a couple of days...

Well, while I was in my aesthetics class today, the other students and I began a brief discussion on sex and children and I was shocked to learn how other parents deal with the "sex talk." Actually NOT deal with it. These young women explained to me how they never had the talk with their parents. They had to learn it on their own, resulting in premature dating resulting in sex at a tender age. Having to make choices for birth control on their own. Wowwwwww, really? They encouraged me to keep talking to my children. Had they had "the talks" with their parents they would not have grown up so fast. By their own admission it is very necessary and they longed for it.

After hearing it from that perspective I decided that I just need to suck it up.

Pieces Of A Dream

2010-08-19T03:22:00.000-07:00

I recently had a dream...my dreams are usually full of all types of unusual activities, people, places and events. Much often like a three ring circus, so much going on, you don't know were you should focus your attention. Because every ring is chock full of something exciting and your afraid you may miss out if you don't watch closely.

Often times I wake up and I don't remember the whole dream, but I'll remember that it was good or bad (based on how I feel when I awake). So this dream was no exception, It was a full three ring circus and I can't remember it all but, there was one segment that is very vivid to me. I was having a discussion with someone about taking chances and stepping out of our comforts. This was not for purpose of a career change, but for the purpose of self appreciation. In my dream I was explaining all of these pretty bizarre activities that I did in the name of love for self. None of which I do in reality, well, not to the extent in my dream. ;)

Anyway, in my dream I encouraged the young woman to see the need to take on the fight or flight attitude when it comes to self love and appreciation. Many times people (especially women) either run from loving and accepting themselves or they fight to achieve and maintain it. I had been on the flight aspect for most of my life. However, not too long ago I began my fight. And I must say just as much as it was/ is frightful it is also exhilarating. As I explained to the woman in my dreams I had to do some pretty radical things to force myself into self love and appreciation once I acknowledged that I was lacking.

I explained how necessary it was to do whatever you have to do to put yourself on the right path for this to take place. It can mean your very life and your purposeful existence. Once you accept the fact that you are lovable, worthy and beautiful your mind body and spirit begins to blossom in ways unimaginable. As I spoke, the woman's eyes grew wide, but I also saw the determination in them. I felt proud to have learned this lesson and share it with her. After saying my piece and feeling satisfied by it, I arose from my spot and in a most confidant way I left the room going through the door as regal as a black butterfly.

When I woke up I felt BEAUTIFUL and LOVED....

Oh No She Didn't Tuesday!: We got trust issues

2010-08-17T07:00:00.000-07:00

Last week my daughter and I were discussing the back to school items that she needed to begin 4Th grade. I don't know about you, but school sorta snuck up on me this year and I was totally NOT ready for the first day.

As we were talking about book bags, pens and paper I remembered that in the absence of school prep in my mind I had not booked a hair appointment for her. I figured well it's too late now, I'll just do her dreadloc maintenance myself. Shouldn't be too difficult...wash, condition, moisturize and twist the new growth of each 'loc.

I begin to explain my plans to this 9 year old little girl, who BTW has been going to the salon regularly since she five. Her face showed it all, the fear and distrust of ME a non-professional stylist doing her hair. You would think that should have been enough, but nooooo! This young girl proceeds to say " I don't think that is a good idea! I'm sorry to say this but I do not trust you doing my hair. I will just wait until you schedule my appointment with Shaina (our stylist), you might mess it up!"

"OH NO SHE DIDN'T! Clearly she got me all twisted....

Terrific Tuesday Tasty Recipe: Eggs & Toast, Toast & Eggs

2010-08-10T04:16:00.000-07:00

I enjoy a wonderful breakfast, in fact it is often my favorite type of food to eat. I especially like to eat a breakfast that is simple yet quick and goes well with my morning coffee or tea.

Here is a recipe that only has two ingredients, maybe three, that I think you will like. Some call it eggs in a basket but I just simply call it eggs in toast. Wanna try it? Check this out -

1 slice of whole wheat bread (or bread of choice) 1 egg 2 pats of butter 1 tablespoon of shredded cheese using a 3 inch circular cookie cutter or the shape of your choice, make a hole in the center of the bread. Place the butter in the pan to melt ( med heat), place the bread in the pan. Crack open the egg careful to keep it in the hole. Cook on each side about a minute and flip it over to the other side. Once done, slide on a plate, add cheese, salt and pepper to taste. Perfection!

Tapping into my creative side: a new kitchen back splash

2010-08-04T08:15:00.000-07:00

Last week I stated that I was going to show you some pictures of my kitchen project. Well, I decided to do you one betta. I made another video. I'm still learning how to do this, so my voice and video is still a little off. Please bear with it and enjoy anyway.

Oh No He Didn't Tuesday! : What really is "normal?"

2010-08-02T20:44:00.000-07:00

Recently I gave my eleven year old a list of chores to do. On this particular day that I delegated these chores I also did not allow any video game or television watching until it was all done. Mind you, my children are no strangers to chores. It is a common practice in our home. However, you know how it is, you give a kid an inch of slack from working and they just take a whole yard...or two.

Well anyway, my son was assigned the chore of washing dishes. HAND WASHING the dishes, not loading up the dishwasher, but absolute old skool filling up the sink with a few drops of liquid dish soap and a splash of bleach. I leave the area for a little bit and returned to see giant crocodile tears and a pleading look in my sons eyes. I ask him why and he responded with a flow of tears like a raging river.

He said....with so much sincerity "I just want to be a NORMAL KID WITH A NORMAL CHILDHOOD". Okay, so I had to blink a few times because of the shock. I had to look around me to be sure he was talking to ME. Last time I checked , this kid had a pretty good life. He continues to explain..."I don't like having to do these chores! All I wanna do is play like the rest of my friends. No one else has to work like I do! It is so unfair the way I have to clean every day. I think you make me do chores because of how you were raised and now your trying to do the same thing to me!"

BLANK STARE... Say it with me "OH NO HE DIDN'T !"

Welcome to “OH NO HE DIDN’T” TUESDAY, a super awesome blog carnival created by Kristi at Live and Love…Out Loud. Click on over to her blog to find out what made her and everyone else stop and say “OH NO HE DIDN’T!”

A new shade of blue and a blogging break

2010-07-21T15:21:00.000-07:00

It has been a few weeks since I been on my blog, I miss it. I miss my readers, "how ya'll doing?"
Finally getting settled in my new home. Sigh!....I love it, love it. I have been busy decorating and I am very excited about showing you the pictures. I'll tell you one thing, I have totally fallen in very deep like with the color BLUE. This is a new color for me. I generally have earth tones as my color palate, but I am really stepping out of my box and I'm excited about it!

I'm hoping that next week I will be back to my regularly scheduled posting, please be on the look out for me, keep your fingers crossed!

XOXO, MISSING YOU!

2010-06-05T19:51:00.000-07:00

I'm not a middle sister, in fact I am the oldest sister! But these wines are the bomb, and I can be a Drama Queen.

Out of my 5 mile radious

2010-06-02T09:28:00.000-07:00

Today I decided that I was gonna get out of my nest. As some of my friends know, I have been working daily for a few weeks now, trying to get ready for my move. Each day I pack up some things, clean out some things, throw away some things *shhh! don't tell the hubby*. In between all of that I am still taking care of the family and working outside the home with clients and networking as often as I can.

But today was an awakening! Literally! I woke up and decided that I was going to get out of my house and do something just for ME. I decided I was gonna go outside of my normal 5 mile radius and go to the MALL!

Insert music for dramatic effect--- *Dun, dun, dunnnnnnn!*

Do you have any idea how long it has been since I been to a mall? So long that I dare to tell my daughter that I came here without her. In any case I came and I am here sitting in Starbucks sipping on my iced coffee curled up in a cozy leather chair, listening to easy going music, inspired to blog. It feels good too. I came out because I wanted to shop for new furniture, (not really buy anything but to window shop) I wanted to get some great ideas on the furniture that will go great in my new place. I had no disturbances, no kids to tell me where THEY wanted to go and no husband tapping his toe and checking his watch as I took my time strolling.

*SIGH*

I'm so glad that I took the time out to even do something for myself. I shook up my scene and it feels fabulous! Now I can go back home and finish my work with a smile on my face.

Every now and then a gal's gotta do what a gal's gotta do so she can be the best gal that she can be....Say THAT five times fast!

p.s while I was in Starbucks I got some great inspiration for a new hair color! whoo-hoo!

Oh No (S)He Didnt Tuesday! - Biting the hand that feeds

2010-06-01T07:25:00.000-07:00

It is no secret to my friends and family that my 17 month old pup Isabelle is a handful. In the words of my sister "Isabelle has changed my definition of BAD!" I have been her biggest defender and protector, I always had a reason in her defense of why she behaved a certain way. I tried to train her.....REALLY, I did. I used positive reinforcement and even a little negative reinforcement (this is a no judgement zone). Nothing seems to work long term. All in all she is a sweet dog, very lovable and has the cutest face (I'm still defending her).

However, yesterday things took a turn for bad. While I was trying to control her when a neighboring dog came down our street, she bit me!

OH NO SHE DIDN'T! *insert head roll and finger point with the lips curled*

Every time I reached for her collar she would growl & bite, I had such a struggle with her but was finally able to get her into her crate. I have to admit I was actually a little afraid and my feelings were really hurt. (as were my arms and fingers). I made a report to my husband reluctantly and in shock, his thoughts on the situation? Yeah, you know it....SHE'S GONE!

Bottom line, at the end of the day, no matter how much love there is for a pet there should be NO FEAR OF THE PET. Lesson learned for Isabelle? "never bite the hand that feeds you"

Welcome to “OH NO HE DIDN’T” TUESDAY, a super awesome blog carnival created by Kristi at Live and Love…Out Loud. Click on over to her blog to find out what made her and everyone else stop and say “OH NO HE DIDN’T!”

2010-05-31T10:19:00.000-07:00

This is how I feel today, well...sorta kinda. My life has been so crazy busy lately that I feel like I have lost some of my blogging MoJo. It has been like two weeks since my last post. *Gasp!*clutching the pearls*

I don't know why this is happening to me. It just doesn't seem like I have anything blog worthy these days, at least not very positive to speak on/ write about. I don't want to be that blogger that is always writing about something negative. So when I can't write positively or in a way that makes my readers smile, reflect or motivate then I just don't write.

There isn't really anything "negative" going on in my life right now. However it is very busy these days and I just can't find the creativity in it. Does that make sense? Sorry if it doesn't...one of those things.

On the up side, I guess I can tell you that we have been prepping for our big move next week. The prepping isn't so up, but the end result is fab' and I am so looking forward to it.
New home= New start.

My dog Isabelle has created a new scandal....I think I may share that tomorrow for my "OH NO SHE DIDN'T !" Tuesday post, she really did it this time!

STAY TUNED.

A Hiking I will go!!

2010-05-20T16:21:00.000-07:00

Can I just say that this girl is wo' out and fit to be ti'ed?! I have been getting my exercise on these last few weeks. Nothing too fancy (figures right?), but just staying very mobile. I have been walking on the Silver Comet Trail and hiking up and down Kennesaw mountain. Six miles on the trail and two miles on the mountain, twice a week. WHEW!! You should'a seen me walking around when I was done with my walks and hikes...wobbly, limping and a really, really sore butt! (I know, TMI but it's was sore!). I actually really enjoy the walking and hiking because I am out in nature and I LOVE nature. It gives me the opportunity to appreciate the beauty of creation and give praise to the Creator. So I feel like right now this is the best form of workout for me. I will be including some other movement, such as Zumba which I have mentioned in a previous post. I may not necessarily lose weight but I will definitely be toning up and losing some inches, while increasing my stamina.

FINE BY ME

I've posted several times about my struggle with maintaining my weight and healthy eating habits. I think that I have just concluded to just do the best that I can do right now, and enjoy myself as I go along. I can do that, 'cause I'm cool like that....*smile*wink*

The runaway bride...err, um, couple!

2010-05-13T00:00:00.000-07:00

I am a firm believer in stealing away time to connect with my honey. Sometimes we find creative and fun ways, times of which are planned and others that are not so planned.

This weekend was a not so planned date. We ran away *giggle*giggle, to have breakfast together without the kids. It was VERY unplanned, we were supposed to be just picking up an item from the corner store and somehow we wound up in front of the corner Huddle House. We were kinda hungry, the kids could just eat cereal right? For 45 minutes it was just he and I eating, laughing, talking and connecting. And I could swear that all eyes were on us, the lovely couple whose love was shining brighter than the morning sun.

Do you have planned times to connect with your honey? Or do you have to sort of run away? If so, please share, I'd love to hear your story...

Not so wordless Wednesday: If the shoe fits, WEAR IT! Or maybe NOT.

2010-05-12T14:05:00.001-07:00

Yeah....I know it looks bad. I promise I did not knowingly send my child to school with these shoes on. I happened to look down when she came home and this is what I saw. She has plenty of other shoes to wear but she likes these...

All I could do is shake my head and imagine the teachers at school thinking "what kind of mother does she have?" ....Don't answer that! *wink*wink*

Has this ever happened to you? Please leave a comment to pull this sistah outta the
mommy- is- somewhere- in- la-la- land blues.

check me out!

2010-05-11T08:29:00.000-07:00

Something New! What do ya think?

From trashy to.....?

2010-05-11T00:00:00.000-07:00

We are in the process of packing up and moving to our new home next month. We have a lot of stuff that needs to be sorted out and thrown away, particularly in our garage. Our garage has become the place were all things go to die and then reincarnate themselves. By my own admission it is filthy and will require a few weeks to clear it out. (don't judge me)

Well this weekend my hubby decides that he will tackle the job....Hurray! right? Wrong! He spent two hours clearing and sweeping up the mess. I thought he had done a good phase one job, until I went outside and saw that he cleared up the mess INSIDE only to make one OUTSIDE. The crap was loaded up on the back of the pickup and piled high. When I asked him what time was he planning on dropping of the load at the dump he says "oh I'll do it next week."

Aaarrrrrggggghhhhh! Well at least it's out of my garage right?

Welcome to “OH NO HE DIDN’T” TUESDAY, a super awesome blog carnival created by Kristi at Live and Love…Out Loud. Click on over to her blog to find out what made her and everyone else stop and say “OH NO HE DIDN’T!”

One of the great one's

2010-05-10T07:21:00.000-07:00

Yesterday we lost an amazing woman in music and entertainment, Lena Horne died at the age of 92. She sang a tune with her own flavor. Her eyes came alive as she sang a song with passion, excitement and a certain savvy that seems to have been lost in days of old. My first encounter with Mrs. Horne was in elementary school when I had to do a book report on her for Black History Month. It was during this time that I truly admired her beauty, her style and her professionalism in a business that was not always accepting and often contradictory. Although during the Cotton Club's peak years, people of color were not allowed to patronize the club, but only allowed to serve and provide entertainment, I fell in love with the thoughts of her performing at the Harlem Cotton Club in the 1930's. Imagining that my grandfather was in the audience, captivated by her voice. Over the years, I have seen her periodically on television shows such as, Sesame Street, Sanford and son, The Cosby Show and A different World. With over 30 albums to her credit, the singers and entertainment of the 21st century have a lot to learn, and beautiful high heeled shoes to fill.

Up, up, and away!

2010-05-04T02:00:00.000-07:00

When I was a little girl, I have vivid memories of going to the park with my mom for an afternoon picnic with fun games, people watching and kite flying. Now, we were not expert kite fliers by any means. However we enjoyed the challenge of trying to get the kite up in the air and to stay there. We would laugh with such amazement and watched with so much anticipation as the kite would ride the wind, ebbing high and low, flipping n' flopping in the great blue sky! It was great family time.

I have on an occasion or two tried to pass on this fun activity with my children, but have not been too successful. I'm still intrigued when I see others at the park doing it, so I am very happy to know that Georgia will be having it's very first kite festival! On May 15Th at the Centennial Olympic Park from 11am -7pm, Humana, The Atlanta Braves and The American Kitefliers association will partner together to introduce this event to the city. Through a program called kites for kids, there will be volunteers working with patients of Scottish Rite Hospital to design beautiful kites that will be on display and for sale during the festival. All of the proceeds from the sales will be given to Children's Healthcare of Atlanta.

The event is free and open to the public. There will be much for the whole family to enjoy; face painting, music, inflatables and kite decorating along with a wide variety of vendors. I will be there with a smile on my face, along with other bloggers such as Jennifer of mami2mommy. I hope we see you there, be sure to stop by the table and say "hi!".

For more information please go to www.georgiakitefestival.com

1 and 2 and 3 and 4, get my work out on ya'll!

2010-05-02T10:34:00.000-07:00

I am still feeling high from the endorphins that were released while I worked it out at World Fitness Day at the Georgia Dome. Along with hundreds of men, women, children and I worked up a sweat with Billy Blanks. Mr. Taebo himself ! I was actually able to keep up even though I have not worked out on that pace and level in a long time.

I must admit that when Mrs. Debbie Allen came out I was in awe. She lead us in a Salsa exercise routine that was so much fun yet very effective. I did not even feel like I was working out, I felt free and light. I think I could have cha-cha-cha'ed and spinned and twirled all day!

Now what can I say about Mr. Richard Simmons? He is SUCH a DIVA and that's all I need to say. Moving on! ;)

Every one that lead us into a routine was awesome, the energy that filled the dome was so high I wish I could have bottled it up and took it home. We were all there for one cause, one purpose and that is to get fit and be healthy! We all were on different levels of fitness but it did not matter. There was no intimidation, just love. It was great. I am so looking forward to going again next year. This gave me the nudge that I needed to really go the next step with my work out, *AHEM!* lack of work out.

Here are some pics of me and a few fellow bloggers working it out. Awesome!

We were gettin' low with Luda on the field! *I still got my eye open for those bribe photos of Akilah, Denene, Lauren, Jennifer and I trying show how low we could go! *

After the show we posed together for a blogger photo op.

The Pointer Sisters reminded us why we were so excited when they came on the stage. They can work the crowd! Did you know that they had the most used songs for work out videos in the eighties? Hmph! an interesting fact.

To be 72 years old, Miss Jane Fonda looks amazing. What a trailblazer in the world of health and fitness!

Herrrrrrrrrrrrrre's Richard! Lol, such a Diva!

Here is Chante' working it out with Billy Blanks, She was so pumped!

Jennifer, Krystal and Denene were focused!

ARE YOU MOTIVATED NOW?

And They Call It Puppy Love

2010-05-02T09:10:00.000-07:00

Meet the new addition to our family. Her name is Tracy and she is a 4 year old terrier mix. I know what you are thinking..."What are you doing with another dog Sandra? You can barely deal with that crazy 1 yr old pit bull mix, Isabelle!"

This is true, indeed. However I just could not resist her sweetness. Plus she is already house trained, very, very mild tempered and obedient. She is just like a baby (hint, hint), she loves to be held and really appreciates a good belly rub. Maybe I'm just a sucker, Maybe I'm a glutton for punishment, MAYBE I JUST GOT A LOTTA LOVE TO GIVE.

In any case....have mercy!

Fit and Healthy Friday's - week# 3 of Blogger challenge

2010-04-25T09:59:00.000-07:00

Well, I missed my post for the 2ND week and so this week will be for week two and three combined.

I don't have too much to post....I know, I know. Well I can honestly say that I have been keeping up with my healthy eating 95% of the time. This entire week I have only had variations of salmon & shrimp. I have fallen off the wagon with the fruit eating though. I know that I should really cut out the coffee and wine drinking BUT...

So! I am continuing my journey in being mobile but I still continue to just walk. I have not gotten to the water aerobics class or the Zumba class yet, but it is on my "to do list". I'm a little bit of a slow starter sometime, but the best thing is that I am doing something. I am not discouraged or disappointed in myself, because it is what it is. I think taking SMALL STEPS to a healthy life is better than taking NO STEPS. I do what I can do within my own abilities. One area of concern for myself, though is my water intake. I know that I am not drinking it enough. I don't know why this is such a challenge for me! I think this week I will try to spruce up my water a little bit, by adding mint leaves, orange slices or cucumber slices.

My partners in this healthy eating challenge are doing great! If you get a chance stop by their blogs to see what they are doing. I know you will find some very good tips there , such as a very tasty & healthy Gumbo recipe and what to eat for an organic CLEANSE . These ladies are really on the ball, which is motivating for me and I'm sure you will find it motivating as well.

I hope I do better this week...

Are You Ready To Work It Out?!

2010-04-22T08:00:00.001-07:00

The month of April is when we really start to see things come alive. The sun is shining bright, the flowers start to push through the dirt with fresh stems and buds, the trees begin to get green and we all begin to unwrap and show a little bit more skin. Well, for some of us the showing of more skin can bring about a little bit of anxiety. We have to kind of tone up and cut back here or there, because we see the after effects of those cozy comfort foods during the winter.

Previously, I had agreed to take part in a 4 week healthy eating challenge by a fellow blogging buddy Swarthy Daisy, which is great because it will help me to focus a little bit better on...being healthy. So imagine my excitement when I was invited to attend WORLD FITNESS DAY on May 1, 2010 at the Georgia Dome in Atlanta Ga. How cool is that? The whole dome filled with people ready to be lead by some of the world's most widely known fitness leaders. All working together sharing their passion for health and fitness for mind, body and spirit. Oh My Goodness! I am soooo There!

I'm very excited because some of the fitness experts that will be there are people that I grew up on. I mean come on, who doesn't remember when Jane Fonda was working it out with her fitness videos rocking her sweat band on the head, wrists and the colorful leggings? I was always entertained by the energy of Richard Simmons and when I was older I bought the Billy Blanks DVD's and tried (i do mean tried) to keep up with him in my living room. Even the Great Debbie Allen and Denise Austin will be there! It is an all star team. We will also have an opportunity to be entertained by legends such as the Pointer Sisters and Atlanta native Ludacris.

This is the first annual event, and I am sure that it will be highly regarded for the years to come. What is also great is that this event will benefit Jane Fonda's Organization; The Georgia Campaign For Adolescent Pregnancy Prevention, founded in 1995.
This is an event you do not want to miss, come out and join us as we strive to get healthy and fit. Wanna know something even cooler? If you can't make it, or do not live in the Atlanta area you can still have fun because it will be live streamed on www.UStream.TV....ohhhh, the wonders of technology! So there is no excuse not to participate.

Check out this video, it gets your adrenaline going and whets your appetite for May 1st, See you there!

Help for Isabella

2010-04-21T15:47:00.000-07:00

Recently I received a call from a friend and colleague in DC regarding her god daughter Isabella. A beautiful little four year old with Leukemia, who in 2008 received a bone marrow transplant and was in remission until March 2010. As she told me the story of this brave little girl, I was very touched at heart, because being a parent of a daughter AND a son I cannot imagine the heartache that Isabella's mother is going through... Actually, I can imagine it. As a parent there is NOTHING worse than feeling helpless when it comes to the well being of your child.

Currently, Isabella is in need of another bone marrow transplant but does not have any prospects. Why? Because, only 30 percent of the patients in need find a matching donor in their own family. Which means that they will then have to turn to the National Marrow Donor Program. That should solve the issue right? Wrong! There are not enough minorities/people of color registered to be a donor and so people of color have the hardest time getting a donor match. Which means there is only One in a million chance of getting a match. How sad! This was a eye opener for me, because I did not know that in order to receive a bone marrow transplant the donor has to be of same or like ancestry.

I began to wonder "why is it that so many minorities are not represented in such a needed area?" Well I believe it is because of a lot of misconceptions within our communities. So I did my own research and came across the Be The Match Registry (also known as the National Marrow Donor Program) . This website is full of information, one page that I found very informative was the MYTHS & FACTS PAGE where I learned that I was wrong in my knowledge about being a donor. It is not a overly painful procedure that is done without anesthesia, and there is more than one way to donate. You should check out the site, perhaps there is a myth that you believed too, but can learn the truth to. Go to www..marrow.org

Please check out the site find out where you can go locally to register and learn what you can do to help Isabella and children like her. And imagine, what would you want for your children if they were in her shoes? How would you feel if YOU were Monica, Isabella's mother fighting for the survival of your child which is dependant on the sacrifice of others? A serious matter, deserving serious attention.

Here is another site that I found for those who want to help but want to do so without the use of blood. I know that personally I want all of my needed surgical procedures to be performed without the use of blood transfusion. If you have the same beliefs or concerns then this site www.noblood.org is a great place to start looking for bloodless alternatives when donating and receiving for transplants.

Let's give Isabella and others like her a fighting chance.

Who can resist this face?

2010-04-21T13:31:00.000-07:00

Look at that face!

Flying by the seat of my pants

2010-04-18T09:10:00.000-07:00

Recently a friend on facebook asked the question :

..".What makes you feel most alive? Don't try to figure out what the world needs more of; try to figure out what you do that makes you feel most alive. The minute you find the answer go do it. What the world needs most is people who are alive... What makes you feel most alive?"

I thought about this interesting question and came up with a few simple answers . But then yesterday my children, my cousin and I decided to take in the sights at the Atlanta Dogwood Festival. We had no definite plans other than we knew we wanted to go. It had been decided that because there was so much going on in the city, driving was out of the question and so we took the public transportation.

We got on the train in the right direction but not sure of what station to get off on. But that was okay, we figured we will get there one way or the other. After riding for about 10 minutes we figured it out and got off on the correct stop. ...No biggie. Once we got off we were not sure which shuttle to take , we asked around and figured it out...No biggie. Once in the park We are enjoying the arts and of course people watching, not really going in any specific direction. A few times my cousin asked " which part do you want to walk to?" "what do you want to look at first?" My reply was simple " doesn't matter, lets just go with the flow, do whatever". And so we walked arm and arm..doing whatever and loving it.

Later on we realize as it is getting dark that there is a big outdoor screen in the open field. There was about to be a movie played outdoors. Oh wow! We were excited, but then we notice we have no blanket, no snacks or beverages...totally unprepared for this activity. Did our lack of preparation deter us? NO WAY...we simple improvised. We found a store withing walking distance and bought the items we needed, came back to the park and enjoyed the screen on the green. We had everything we wanted and needed, except a blanket. We improvised, huddled close together in the night air laughing and cheering with the crowd...No biggie.

At the end, my dear husband came to pick us up ( because of course we missed the last shuttle and did not want to ride the train back home)...No biggie

To some of you reading this you might think that I am a little crazy for doing all that without any real forethought. Thinking that we just was flying by the seat of our pants. Well, sometimes we do, but that is what makes life interesting. There is always an adventure waiting to happen and THAT is what makes me feel ALIVE.

The SNEAKY housewife chronicles

2010-04-15T09:35:00.000-07:00

Like most wives, I take pride in my home. I love the sight of a clean kitchen, and the smell of clean linens on a freshly made bed. NORMALLY, I would work very hard to keep my home looking good. I enjoy knowing that my husband will come home from a hard day of work to a clean home and a home cooked meal.

Sounds good don't it? Yeah well, I have a confession to make. I have turned into the sneaky housewife. My husbands schedule causes him to only be home a few days and nights a week. The rest is on the road. So, some how I have developed the pattern of doing absolutely nothing while he is gone, staying in my pj's, letting the laundry pile, and barely cooking a meal worth talking about. Only to make a complete turn around on the day of his scheduled return! I wake up and begin making a mad dash around the house, vacuuming and washing clothes and dishes, while trying to prepare a culinary delight for dinner. I even get all spruced up, hehehe!

It's a shame I know, I don't even know how it happened. I didn't even realize it as it was happening. Maybe it's a phase, maybe I'll get over this soon. This can't be permanent, right? In the meantime I'll just continue my facade, what he doesn't know wont annoy him....or does he know? Bwahahahahahahahaha!

Fit and Healthy Friday's - week#1 of Blogger challenge

2010-04-09T02:18:00.000-07:00

Okay so here it is the end of week number one of the healthy eating blogger challenge. As I mentioned before there are a group of us blogger's engaged in this challenge for the month of April. What you see above is a collage of pictures and information about ourselves that each blogger is required to post...as if you don't already know much about me anyway. Hehehehehe!

Anyhow, I'll go ahead and tell you about my week. Good things first, I started to get mobile! I got off my but and went walking a few times this week. The weather has been great and so I was encouraged to get out and walk for about 45 minutes. Yay me! I can see it now...my thighs will be shrinking!

I have increased my protein intake and cut out the fried foods. My diet this week has consisted of primarily grilled fish and skinless chicken breast, along with a green salad. I have had very little starch and I am increasing my fiber by eating about 3 apples a day, often before a meal, along with drinking 8 ounces of prune juice each morning.

The bad things...I am still craving my snacks and so I have not totally given them up. What I have done is put limits upon myself. Changed my portion size of a snack, such as only eating about two table spoons of the ice cream instead of three scoops (less guilt). I went to the movies on Sunday and indulged in popcorn and soda. I managed to have control though...instead of my regular two buckets of popcorn, I only had ONE bucket. TRUST ME that is a huge accomplishment. I LOVE MY POPCORN.

I plan on kicking things up a notch or two next week...I'm gonna join water aerobics! Stay tuned for next Friday's post.

Loving Me, Loving You

2010-04-05T07:38:00.000-07:00

This weekend my husband and I went to see the movie; WHY DID I GET MARRIED TOO?
This movie touched on so many topics and emotions within a married relationship. Of all of the situations that each mate was dealing with, i have to say that the character of Angela struck a cord with me the most. Of course everyone knows that Angela is totally off the chain with her antics and shenanigans. Always creating havoc everywhere she goes. No one understands her when she gets this way, She is a lovable person but she keeps up an unbreakable exterior.

Whenever I see a person that is so tough, all it does is make me wonder about their insecurities. What are they trying to protect? What are they hiding underneath all of that tough skin? Well, Angela in the movie revealed it; INSECURITY along with a LACK of SELF LOVE. She did not see her own value and because she did not appreciate her own worth she did not understand why her husband loved and stayed with her. Which led to self-sabotage of her relationship. She did not believe she was worthy of someones true love. She abused her self and expected him to do it also in return. Underneath her tough exterior she is a fragile & vulnerable person, who wants and desires a loving, committed relationship but does not know how to receive it in a healthy way.

Love of self is so vital to a happy and clear path in life. Some people learn this lesson early and some have to go through a lifetime of troubles before they "get it." When someone does not love themselves they most certainly cannot love others PROPERLY, which can and will make for dysfunctional relationships. We all know of an "Angela", perhaps SHE is YOU. Whatever the case, share this insight with her. Help her to see the light and the gifts within herself.

Here is a great way to get started www.openthegifts.com

TO LOVE YOURSELF IS TO KNOW YOURSELF AND TO LOVE YOURSELF IS FREEDOM

An Organic Xperience

2010-03-30T07:35:00.000-07:00

Anybody that knows me knows that I love to support other female entrepreneurs. But not just anybody, I am drawn to the sincere and genuine. the ones that are beautiful in spirit and kind at heart. One entrepreneur that I am developing a great relationship with is Dian Thompson of Organic Xperience. We met at the Trumpet Awards Gifting suite and have worked together on BagTherapy. Now I have the privilege of being a Passport Partner for Organic Xperience. Which means that I get to share with you and many others the wonderful pieces of wearable art that are available in her online store.

March 31,2010 at 9:05 a.m. marks the grand Re-Birth of Organic Xperience online! Please come and celebrate with us, check out what great pieces have been imported from Turkey, Canada and Africa. Organic Xperience is all about healing from the outside in using art, what's organic, new and beautiful. Be among the first 46 registered guests and receive 25% off your first purchase! When checking out don't forget to reference me: Sandra Hicks, Passport Partner.

www.organicexperience.com

Tonight was the last night

2010-03-29T18:44:00.000-07:00

Yes, tonight I said my goodbyes to my last pork chop. Seasoned with Adobo and fried in grease, with two sides of scalloped potatoes and baked beans with a biscuit. I was saying bye-bye-bye because as of April 1st I will be participating in a healthy eating blogging challenge. Myself along with my partner with Be.Beautifully.Well, SwarthyDaisy and Dalia of Eating Beautiful Blog will change our diets and increase our physical activities for one whole month. (Hopefully it will be for good)

Now this is not new to me. I have embarked upon a healthy living and eating lifestyle at various times in my life. The problem is that I have been backsliding....okay, more like bungee jumping when it comes to sticking to the healthy choices. A lot of my struggle with healthy eating comes from my own head. So, this is the reason why I had the big dinner of the foods that I know are not good for me. Hey, I had to get it out of my system! I know it's not smart to do that but, it is what it is.

For the next few days I will be detoxing before going full steam ahead. Then the challenge begins. I will be working out, eating right, cleansing my mind, body and spirit. Every Friday I will post an update of my progress. Please check in with me, cheer me on!

Getting things in check

2010-03-29T07:50:00.000-07:00

So, today is Monday the beginning of a new week. New goals to achieve, new ideas to be thought of. Today I find myself in a familiar place, the space within my mind and emotions. Not in a bad way, but like I am taking note of who I am within. Going through the internal maze, doing a house check so to speak. Recognizing the places that are a little bit dusty, realizing that some areas are getting more attention than others. Looking to see where and how I can put it all in balance. I hate to be off balance, I need and thrive with things being even. However life is not always that way. It is not always "even", which is why the house check is in order.

I plan to enlighten myself with meditation, prayer, some breathwork and soothing music without lyrics. Walk quietly so that I can listen to the goings on of mind. Take a Look at where I have been and where I am going, feeling the path that I am on and making my connection with it. This is a renewal of my spirit, a rejuvenation. I always feel better and focused when I do that.

I have my way of doing things to get back in balance, what about you? What is your way?

A soldier of Love- Sade has struck a cord

2010-03-26T20:03:00.000-07:00

I don't know what it is about this song that has just captivated me, but I am totally engrossed in it. Over the years I have liked a few songs by Sade just like the majority of the population, however I would not ordinarily consider myself her "fan". With this new album though, I have felt myself become her fan. Is it the beat of the drum or the strum of the guitar that I hear?Or is it really just parts of the lyrics that are resonating within me right now? It seems that due to all of the things I have been through with certain familial relationships, that I have a soldier-like approach at times. Well, at least I want to have that type of approach. Absolutely, I feel the need to protect my heart from harmful effects of toxic relationships without losing my ability to still serve love greatly and deeply. I totally get what she is saying ..."it's a wild, wild west. Doing my best. To stay alive." Often times I feel like it is a battle to continue to fight for love....not so much to have to love others (that is easy). But the fight is to continue to always love myself ....I have to be a soldier of love sometimes, because I am worth the fight.

2010-03-24T02:00:00.000-07:00

Behold the Beauty of Ruby Falls! Chattanooga Tennessee

The Five Keys to Seventeen years

2010-03-21T15:47:00.000-07:00

This weekend my husband and I celebrated our wedding anniversary. We both are amazed that so much time has went by....19 years to be exact, 17 of which we have spent married.

How did the time go by so fast? One day we are two kids totally infatuated with each other, refusing to be apart for more than a day, willing to go through hell and high water just to be together. The next day we are an old couple with two kids of our own, still willing to go through hell and high water to be together.

What a wonderful feeling it is to be able to look at him and feel that I have made a good choice. The very qualities that drew me to him 19 yrs ago are the same ones that draw me today, perhaps enhanced.

What makes it work? Well, for One we both want a successful marriage. It was and is important to us that we keep our vows not only to each other but to God, the originator of marriage. We realize that there is a bigger commitment involved and we want to honor it. Secondly, we forgive, even when it feels very difficult and beyond our limitation. There is a old saying: "a successful marriage is made up of two great forgivers" This is absolutely true. If he and I did not work on forgiveness I don't even think our union would have lasted past year number 2! I promise, our relationship was on the rocks the day he washed and dried his car greased hands with my "good towels!" And of course I'm not perfect so I'm sure I did things that needed forgiving too, but you'll have to ask him about that...I'm pleading the 5Th! The Third key to our marriage is compromise. We both compromise on a regular basis, recognizing that this is a partnership of which selfishness does not dwell. Well, at least not for long. It is important to remember that we should keep an eye out for not just our own interests but for those of the other person. This willingness in itself generates much love and respect in any relationship. The Fourth key is that we are still friends and still find things that we can mutually share in, although we have grown in different areas of our lives. We have not grown so differently that we have let go of the core of what made us laugh in the first place. Which leads me to the Fifth key, keeping it sexy and intimate. This is so important to me, and I don't mean just sex. However I do mean all the things that lead up to sex, no not foreplay... technically. I mean remembering to hold hands, making it a point to hug everyday. Taking the time to snuggle with each other, at home and in public. Nothing obscene has to be done in public, but it feels so great to sit in the movies with arms wrapped around each other and hands held. This is a lesson that was taught to me by my husband, through his sincere and honest communication I have learned the value of true intimacy.

There are so many other keys to a successful marriage, these are the few that I wanted to highlight today. If you appreciate it, let me know. If you know someone who can benefit, please share it with them. I love to see and hear about happy couples....it does my heart good. ;)

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2010-03-18T06:14:00.001-07:00

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I used to do it several times a day, but I gave it up

2010-03-17T18:57:00.000-07:00

Lately, my conscious has really been giving me a good thrashing. I am plagued by guilty feelings due to some very bad habits that I have acquired. I'm not the only one... every body's doing it. Some are trying to be discreet about it and others are boldly doing it without shame, even in front of the kids! First I started to do it just a little bit, you know, for fun. Then it turned into an everyday occurrence as if I had no more control, my lack of patience got the best of me.

I'm not talking about anything illegal, as I'm sure you are sitting there trying to figure where I'm going with this. Actually depending on which state you live in, it is considered illegal and is punishable by law. What am I referring to? TWD: Texting While Driving. Yeah, I've been really bad about this. But lately I've been trying hard to stop this pattern of behaviour. For one thing, I do not want to be the one who causes a horrible accident perhaps killing someone on the road because of my carelessness. Not only that, but I could injure or kill myself and those that I love in my own vehicle. As I drive everyday I am carrying precious cargo in my backseat, my two babies. How can I be angry with another driver for being careless if I am doing the same thing? I cannot rightfully expect a stranger to care about the safety of my children if I myself am not taking the same if not safer precautions while behind the wheel of my car. Not to mention how much of a hypocrite I will become in the eyes of my children , when I talk to them about being a safe driver, setting rules for them that I myself am not willing to follow. I know that children are more apt to follow what a parent does rather than what they say. Lord knows, that when they become of driving age I will have PLENTY to say, but I want to have good actions to support my words.

Studies have shown that a person who is distracted by texting while driving has the same driving skills as a person who has had four alcoholic beverages! And just like a drunk driver, a person who texts and talks on the phone while driving thinks that everything is under control and that nothing is going to happen to them. WRONG! It is so very possible. Just with the push of a button, someones life is in your hands. It could be a passenger in your car, an adult or child crossing the street or another driver in the next lane over. One careless action can cause a person to be blood guilty in a major way, changing lives of families forever.

So, to prove to myself, to my children and to others that I am committed to being a safe driver, I took the pledge. I went to Oprah.com and pledged to stop texting while driving and to only use my cellphone with a hands free device while driving if I have to make or take a call.

What about you? Are you guilty? Can you make changes in your daily habit and routine while commuting to and fro? If you want to do the right thing along with thousands of others, go to Oprah's site and take the NO PHONE ZONE PLEDGE . I did, and I am happy to have done it. Now my conscious is clear. It's one less thing I have to worry about.

What is beautiful to you? What is YOUR PRICE OF BEAUTY?

2010-03-17T09:07:00.000-07:00

Just like so many women I have spent the better part of my adult life trying to determine for myself what is beautiful. What makes me look and feel beautiful, not only on the outside but also what is beautiful on the inside. Trying to develop the woman that I am deep inside is far more important to me than what I look like outside...but don't get me wrong, a sistah still likes to look good! And when I need to, I can work it *two snaps in a z formation*

....Ahem! back to my point.

With all of the media around us trying to dictate what is beautiful it is hard to feel comfortable with yourself sometimes. It often takes a lot of inner strength and confidence to be able to love yourself for who you are and what God has blessed you with. However the earlier we learn to do this the better off we are, the more time and money we save ourselves from therapy and anti-depressants.

In light of the latter I want to encourage everyone to watch the new t.v show with Jessica Simpson; The Price of Beauty. Being a woman who have had her share of ill comments about her body (and brains) she has had to try hard to look within herself and try to love herself despite the constant talk in the tabloids and gossip shows. One way that she is doing this is by traveling the world to view how others determine what is beautiful. She and her two best friends travel to many countries with the cameras in tow, experiencing first hand the lives of other women. I am proud of her for taking this bold step, she has taken the negativity that has been thrown her way and turned it into a big positive. Kudos to her! Here is a brief clip of what to expect of the show.

Can I do it?

2010-03-14T13:00:00.000-07:00

As most folks know I have been pressing on in a new business venture with Be.Beautifully.Well, a mobile service. Offering massage, reflexology, and aromatherapy we are really pushing ahead. But, can I just say it is such a brain boggler?! I guess this is true of all new business ventures, I am often overwhelmed by the constant tweaking that is needed to be done in order to build a business that I am proud of. So far we have had a good measure of success, according to the wonderful testimonies that we hear.*woot!*

What is inescapable in the trenches of my mind are the nudging's of doubt. Doubts are there, I keep pushing them back. Trying not to listen to the esteem crashing words. Somehow, they wiggle their way back to the forefront of my mind. I find myself, stepping into realms that are not very familiar to me and like a moth to a flame I am drawn to it. I often wonder if I am the only one who feels this way, but after listening to others I know that I am not.

Have you ever felt like the thing that you want is right at your fingertips? If you... just.reach.for.it
It's yours!
It is that continual feeling that keeps me moving ahead and pressing on in spite of my fears. I am happy to have my blogging as an outlet in which I can express myself and release what I am feeling. Honestly, sometimes it's better than therapy!

Soooooo, now that I have let that off of my chest i'm gonna end my post right here. What? I got a business to run!
PEACE!

Not so wordless Wednesday: I am a butterfly

2010-03-09T20:00:00.000-08:00

Do you see this beautiful butterfly? Full of life and vibrant color, no longer in it's cocoon, it's wings are completely open for all to see. We notice it, admire it and encourage it to keep flying and soaring because it's very existence adds beauty to the world.

Some times I feel like this Butterfly and sometimes I don't. However, on days when I am not feeling my most glorious I am uplifted and encouraged because someone else saw my (inner) beauty and appreciated me, even when I did not feel it nor thought that anyone else even noticed.

To the ones that see me......Thank you

Terrific Tuesday Tasty Recipe: Quick Chicken Burrito

2010-03-09T13:26:00.000-08:00

Here is a fast meal that you can make for the family. It's a healthier version of a burrito that you would get at some drive thru joint, and it tastes better. I got this recipe out of a Nickjr family magazine several years ago, it serves 6. The prep time is 15 min. and the Cooking time is only 10 minutes. No slaving in the kitchen, Love THAT!

Quick Chicken Burritos

1 tblsp canola oil
1 lb. skinless, boneless chicken-breast halves, sliced into thin strips
1 large carrot, peeled and shredded (about 1 cup)
1/2 to 1 tsp ground cumin
1/2 to 1 tsp chili powder
1 can (15 1/2 oz) pinto beans, drained and rinsed
1 cup frozen corn kernels, thawed
1 cup pre-shredded reduced-fat cheddar cheese
3/4 cup salsa
6 flour tortillas

Heat the oil in a large nonstick skillet over medium-high heat. Add the chicken, carrot, cumin and chili powder and cook until the chicken is no longer pink, 4-5 minutes
Stir in the beans, corn , cheese and salsa and cook until heated through and the cheese melts, about 2 minutes.
Meanwhile, stack the tortillas on a microwave-safe plate, uncovered, and heat in the microwave until warmed through, 30-45 seconds.
Assemble by placing the chicken mixture down the center of each tortilla. Wrap burrito-style and serve

Sunday Best

2010-03-07T08:59:00.000-08:00

This morning I woke up and prepared to make Sunday breakfast for my family. It is one of the times that we are all actually together at the same time. There is no hustle and bustle going on, we can actually sit down at the table and enjoy each others company before our Sunday meeting.

It feels good.

As the coffee was brewing, and the sausage was sizzling I was getting the plates ready to set the table. Like always I grabbed our everyday plates and our everyday coffee mugs to set our table and I had a thought. "Why not use my 'good plates'? " You see, I have 2 sets of "good plates" that I inherited from a very, very dear relative. They are so precious to me that I rarely ever use them. I like to look at them from time to time in the cabinet with admiration and on occasion I pull them out for our "special" guests. However, it dawned on me that although not guests, my family is SPECIAL. So why not use these pretty dishes for them too?

So right away I put back the everyday plates for us everyday people and brought the special dishes for the special people in my life. As we sat down to enjoy our meal, my kids began to say "wow! it looks like we are rich today!" Which began a brief dialogue and lesson for our family:

Remember to appreciate each day, Each of us are special and we don't need a special day to enjoy some of our special things. Tomorrow is not promised to anyone, so don't wait for it to enjoy today.

Zoom!, Zoom!, Zoom!

2010-03-05T08:08:00.000-08:00

Zoooooooom!
This week has flown by me. How it happened I don't know, but each day has just rolled on like the river. All of a sudden this week I had 4 new clients for reflexology and herbal body wraps! Which is good, but also typical of how my work at the chiropractors office goes. I will have a dead period with hardly anybody, A ghost town. Then I get a whole bunch of folks back to back to back for a while. I have worked 4 days at the office this week, I'm all off balance now. I'm thankful for the work though, believe me!

Zoom, Zoom!
This week has been a whirlwind of preparation for Be.Beautifully.Well's next spa party event, Bag Therapy. Making phone calls, sending emails, reading emails and locating venues. To top it all off I don't even think I fully recovered from all the work we put in from VinoTherapy!

Zoom, Zoom,Zoom!
I really surprised myself this week because not only am I doing all the things I mentioned, I'm staying on task. It feels like it has been a long time since I've felt "on task. " Usually a stickler for keeping everything in order around the house, I have really begun to just let things go. But almost as if I have a renewed zeal I have been getting up in the morning, showering and putting on clothes (don't judge me), getting my laundry done and out of the way by 9:30 am and actually cleaning house. I've been getting my blogging in too, have you noticed? CONSISTENT. I have even been getting to bed at a descent hour...but I guess with all the work I've been putting in I'm too tired to stay up late. I'm not saying that everything inside and around Fort Hicks is perfect, but things are certainly looking up and I am gettin' down!

So at the end of this zooming post, I guess the only thing left for me to do is to toot my own horn so here it goes: TOOT! TOOT!

Mommy blues, laundry woes

2010-03-03T17:46:00.000-08:00

I love my husband, I most surely do. But.....how long am I gonna have to wait for my dryer to get fixed? Seriously, I am so tired of going to the laundromat to dry my families clothes. I mean, not that I'm above it or anything. Most of my childhood, I grew up in New York City and in our two bedroom apartment we did not have a washer and dryer. Along with our neighbor's, we would lug our week's worth of dirty laundry down five flights of stairs to the laundromat on the corner and clean our clothes every Saturday morning. That is what we were used to. When we moved to Georgia it was the same scenario. Small apartment and no personal washer and dryer. It would be a few more years before we had a house with enough space for our own washer and dryer. Even when I moved out and had my own place, I continued the lifestyle of going to the laundromat to clean my clothes. But once again, It was what we were used to and what we always did.

Now, flash forward years later. I am married with a family and have my own home. For about 15 years I have had the comfort of having my own washer and dryer. So ,I am not so accustomed to going to the laundromat every week as I once was. Our dryer broke down 5 months ago and it still is not working. I went from washing one to two loads a day per week to washing one day a week and toting 3-4 loads to the laundromat to dry each week. I think I've had my fill of this situation. I need my dryer to be fixed! We cannot go on this way, seriously I'm drowning in my laundry! I'm drowning! I'm drowning ! I'm drowning!

It was good, really good

2010-03-02T15:44:00.000-08:00

One of the highlights of VinoTherapy for me was having an area reserved for the South African wine tasting. The wine used was from Heritage Link Brands. A company that was formed in 2007, out of a need to represent and promote wine makers of color in South Africa.

Unfortunately, because I was so busy working I was not able to sample the variety of wines available (six to be exact). However, at the end when all the guest were gone I was able to sit down, kick up my heels and sip a little sumthin' sumthin'. What did I have? I poured myself a glass of M'HUDI. Now, don't ask me to pronounce it 'cause I can't. Well at least I don't think I will do it justice. So you'll just have to figure it out on your own how to pronounce it! But anyway, Let me tell you about this M'HUDI wine. M'hudi, meaning "harvester", is inspired by a great African story. That of a bold and graceful woman who flees from her village to recreate life in a turbulent and unfamiliar environment. M'hudi Wines are in every way a celebration of this story of courage, possibility and generosity without expectation. -Tseliso Rangaka.

I had the Pinotage, a variety that was created 1925 in South Africa. It is a cross between Pinot Noir and Cinsault wine varieties. This red wine was good and bold and I've read that it is a really good dinner wine. I think it is a good wine for dinner, lunch, or anytime *wink*wink* (no judging)

If you would like to learn more about these Wines from South Africa, go to the website www.heritagelinkbrands.com

Picture from Heritage Link Brands

VinoTherapy

2010-03-02T13:35:00.000-08:00

Well, in case you haven't heard me speak on it via Twitter, Facebook and Blog Talk Radio, my partner and I hosted an event last week. The event was VinoTherapy and it involved all the things we love; wine, massage, reflexology, good food and pampering.

I am still floating on a cloud from the success of it. People came and walked away feeling exactly the way we wanted them to....relaxed, renewed, and refreshed. We put forth the best that we could to offer a good service in a comfortable and beautiful environment.

Our company is Be.Beautifully.Well and we do combination therapy (massage,reflexology & aromatherapy at once). In efforts to spread the word about what we do we host events. This was the first of many more to come. We have big plans and we are pushing full steam ahead. Keep your eyes open for the website! Check out the video clip, we look Hot! ;)

Make video montages at www.OneTrueMedia.com

Mojito's for you, you and you

2010-03-02T01:00:00.000-08:00

In my own way of supporting National Cherry month, here is a simple mojito recipe featuring cherries, Enjoy!

For a large database of cherry recipes go to www.choosecherries.com/recipes

Red Eye Mojito

Ingredients:
2 1/2 teaspoons super fine granulated sugar
3 Tablespoons tart cherry juice
12 mint leaves
Squeeze of fresh lime juice
1 ounce white rum
1/2 cup soda or seltzer water
Ice

Directions:
Place 6 mint leaves in a tall glass. Crush mint leaves with a muddler, or with the back of a spoon. Add sugar, tart cherry juice, lime juice, white rum and ice. Mix well. Finish drink with soda water and remaining mint leaves. Stir to combine and serve.

Yield: 1 serving.

No need to be all SNOOTY about it!

2010-03-01T11:14:00.000-08:00

Okay it is Monday and I feel a need to vent. Generally I don't like to complain but what's up with peoples attitudes these days? It really isn't necessary to act..." cold blooded !" (in my Dave Chappelle, Rick James Chronicles voice)

The last couple of days I have been reaching out to some people I've met at networking events, that I THOUGHT were great. Looking for an opportunity to connect in business. However, it seems that after a 5 or ten minute conversation or email with them, THEY are NOT so great.

Is it because some people are only out for themselves? Perhaps they have reached a higher level and they feel above others? I'm not sure what the problem is, but I know one thing. I don't appreciate being treated like I'm a scrub. I am far from that. I have always tried to treat people with dignity and respect, to honor their light which is in my presence. So, I am very taken aback when I am not treated in like manner. It is downright disturbing to my spirit.

Needless to say, each of those persons have been removed from my Rolodex. I do not want to work now nor in the future with anyone who has a snooty demeanor. The world is so full of fake people and folks with unscrupulous business practices, but I do not have to choose to work with them. They are not deserving of MY light.

So, I end this post with a bible verse that I learned a lesson from years ago:
"Let him who thinks he is standing beware that he does not fall" 1Corinthians 10:12....
A little humility goes a long way.

She's at it AGAIN

2010-02-24T05:25:00.000-08:00

We woke up to this catastrophe this morning

Think she was mad about something?

Terrific Tuesdays: You don't have to wait for the fall to enjoy this!

2010-02-23T04:06:00.000-08:00

Did you love last weeks Apricot-Stuffed french toast recipe? You did? Well, well, well, you are in for another treat.

Pumpkin French Toast!
serves 6

1 loaf (1 lb.) unsliced brioche-style bread
1/4 cup sugar
1/4 tsp ground cinnamon
pinch coarse salt
1/2 cup canned pumpkin puree
1/2 cup half-and-half
4 large eggs
1 tsp grated fresh ginger
1 tsp vanilla extract
1/2 tsp grated orange zest
6 tbsp unsalted butter
Pure maple syrup
2 tbsp orange flavored liqueur or orange juice

Trim ends of bread; cut crosswise into 12 (1 inch-thick) slices. Combine sugar, cinnamon and salt in a medium bowl. Whisk in pumpkin, half-and-half, eggs, liqueur, ginger, vanilla and orange zest. Pour mixture into a large pan. Add bread slices to pan; turn slices over. Cover pan with GLAD Press 'n Seal Wrap and refrigerate overnight.
Preheat oven to 250 degrees F. Heat two large skillets over medium-low heat. Add 1 tablespoons butter to each skillet. When butter is sizzling, add 2 bread slices to each skillet. Cook until bread is golden brown, 2 to 3 minutes on each side. Transfer slices to a cookie sheet; keep warm in oven . Repeat with remaining butter and bread. Serve with maple syrup.

There is a lot to be learned from Art

2010-02-22T17:52:00.000-08:00

When we were in Washington DC last week we decided to take in some sights. No point in going somewhere if I can't see the sights right? In true form we (my #1 home girl and I) were pushing our time limits to the max. We should have left DC before 12 noon but being the habitual line crosser's that we are, we did not leave until 6pm.

One thing we did was visit the Smithsonian National Museum of African Art. What a treat! It was there, that I was introduced to the mind blowing art of Nigerian artist Yinka Shonibare MBE. His work is pure genius to me. He uses painting, sculpture, photography and film to address social and racial issues relevant especially to Africa, The french revolution and European colonialism. One aspect of his art that is unique in my mind is his use of Dutch Wax Fabric. He really made me think, reflect and learn things of which I was not very familiar. Interesting, so interesting.

Here are some pictures of his art featured in the exhibit that are from the Smithsonian Website. The pictures don't really do it justice, you had to be there.

*CLICK THE PHOTO DESCRIPTION TO LEARN MORE ABOUT IT*

Globe Children "suggesting that we are like children toying with the world...unaware of the consequences of our actions"

Headless Man Trying to Drink

Odile and Odette inspired by Swan Lake

Black Gold

How do we get ourselves into these situations?...

2010-02-21T08:34:00.000-08:00

Last week my #1homegirl and I took on a little road trip. We both love road trips, and in our minds we can drive anywhere because... "it's fun!" For months I have been discussing very enthusiastically about attending the Blogalicious DC meet up. It was all about "creating our own conversations" Lots of tips on using the various aspects of social media, great opportunities to meet new people and make great professional connections. I knew it was in DC, 10 hours away from Atlanta but who cares? It's just 10 hours away...rrriiiight? If only it was so simple.

I thought about trying to come up with clever verbiage to draw my readers in. Imagining that I would make you chuckle and laugh all the way through to the last letter. But there was so much to happen in those two short days that I just don't think I could do it any real justice.

So as they always say: A PICTURE IS WORTH A THOUSAND WORDS

*They was on our tail, but never caught us*...hahaha, "Sack Suckas!"

*We really should be more careful, never know who we might need for help*

*It would have been REALLY good if we had 1 0r 2 of these when we got into the city*

*If we had a GPS perhaps it would've made it easier to find THIS place, or at least better than what we wound up with* smh*rolling my eyes*

*Everything was ending up lovely UNTIL THIS. We acted like we was being filmed on "PUNK'D"...hindsight it really was hilarious! Sorta.

So what do you think, Will you join us for our next road trip?
We promise it will be a road trip to remember!

Go Red , it does more good than you think.

2010-02-18T01:00:00.000-08:00

Normally, for my Therapeutic Thursday's post I share some information about the benefits of essential oils or something else along those lines. This week however, I am going to blog about the benefits and power of RED....red cherries.

February is National Cherry month, cherries are now considered a "super food." Cherries are very high in antioxidants and beta-carotene (19 times more than blueberries and strawberries). It is also a good source of iron and fiber among other important nutrients. New studies are showing that cherries help with minimizing the pain of such ailments as arthritis and gout. Which means it must have anti-inflammatory properties. This super fruit also has the ability to lower the risk of heart disease, diabetes and certain types of cancer.Wow, who knew? I guess the CDC and JAMA. ;)

Even more interesting to me was learning that cherries contain melatonin (a sleep regulator) and that if a person has a diet enriched with cherries they can shrink the belly fat. SAY WHAT? I don't know about you, but I can always use a good night sleep and a slimmer waist.

If you would like to know more information about the benefits of cherries and how to incorporate them in your healthy lifestyle check out www.choosecherries.com

Okay, so what are you waiting for? GO GET SOME CHERRIES.

Poprocks and Chocolate

2010-02-17T03:00:00.000-08:00

This is my new obsession. I cannot get enough of it. It is the most unique blend of ingredients that I have ever experienced in my mouth!

Get some, if you dare www.chuaochocolatier.com

YOU'VE BEEN WARNED

*This is NOT a paid advertisement, nor was I given these delicious chocolates as a bribe....although I would happily become a brands ambassador if I was asked*hint*hint*

Terrific Tuesdays: I'm Stuffing it!

2010-02-16T03:00:00.000-08:00

What is your favorite food to eat? Breakfast, lunch, Dinner? I love all of it, however my favorite is breakfast. I love, love, LOVE breakfast food! Especially french toast. The next few weeks for my Terrific Tuesday posts I will be posting my favorite french toast recipes.

My first one is Apricot-Stuffed french toast. Try preparing it for your family, I know they will love it just as mine does. I have made it several times and there is never any left.

Apricot-Stuffed French Toast

Serves 4

1 loaf Italian bread (about 4 inches in diameter), cut into eight 1-inch-thick slices
3 tablespoons apricot jam
1/4 cup (2 ounces) reduced-fat cream cheese, room temperature
2 large eggs
1/2 cup low-fat (1 percent) milk
1/4 teaspoon ground cinnamon
1 to 2 tablespoons unsalted butter
Pure maple syrup, for serving (optional)

Directions

Using a paring knife, cut a horizontal slit in each bread slice to form a pocket. In a bowl, blend jam and cream cheese. Spoon 1 tablespoon mixture into each pocket.
In a shallow bowl, whisk together eggs, milk, and cinnamon until combined. In a large nonstick skillet, melt 1 tablespoon butter over medium-low heat. Lay half the bread slices in egg mixture, letting them soak 5 seconds on each side.
Place slices in skillet; cook until golden brown, 3 to 4 minutes per side. Repeat with remaining bread, adding more butter to skillet if needed. If desired, serve French toast with syrup and bacon.

From Everyday Food, December 2006